Many people believe that perfect sex requires "longer, longer", but a report published in the British Journal of Sexual Medicine pointed out that the quality of sexual life does not depend on the length of sex, but on the time. allocation is closely related. Recently, the "Family Doctor Online" website launched a survey on sex time, with 5,358 people participating. Some survey data are worthy of attention.

Half of the people had less than 3 minutes of foreplay. The survey shows that 12.7% of people go straight to the topic without foreplay; 41.31% of people have foreplay within 3 minutes. In other words, more than half of people spend less than 3 minutes on foreplay. Yang Dazhong, an attending physician at the Department of Sexual Medicine at Tsinghua University Yuquan Hospital, said that complete sex should include three parts, foreplay, substantive love and afterplay. The time allocation of the three parts should follow the principle of 2:3:2. Generally, the overall sex time is enough for both parties to be satisfied in 20 minutes, so foreplay should take about 6 minutes. He suggested that the older you get, the more time you spend on foreplay so that your body is fully prepared for higher-quality sex.

The main form of foreplay is cuddling and kissing. What actions do you take before entering into substantive love? The survey shows that hugging and kissing (lips, tongue, earlobes, neck, back, etc.) account for 70% of the cases. Dr. Cote, a psychologist and sex therapist in Michigan, USA, pointed out that the best "sexual foreplay" should satisfy people's four major needs of vision, touch, smell, and hearing. Use music and lights to create an atmosphere, say some provocative words, breathe in and out... Couples don't have to stick to formalities, they can change the pattern every time and have more formalities.

Sixty percent of people are dissatisfied with substantial love time. In terms of substantial love time, 26.28% of people had less than 5 minutes, and 37.96% of people had 6-15 minutes. At the same time, more than 60% of people feel "dissatisfied" or "feel average" with their sex time. In this regard, Professor Ma Xiaonian from the Department of Sexual Medicine at Yuquan Hospital of Tsinghua University pointed out that people always pay too much attention to sex time, especially men. In fact, the time for couples in various countries to make love is not as long as people think. A survey released by the United States showed that the average time for nationals in many countries to have sex is 4 minutes and 24 seconds, with the longest record being 44 minutes and the shortest being only 30 seconds. Experts from Utrecht University in the Netherlands believe that the time from insertion to ejaculation is 3-7 minutes, which is enough to meet the needs of both parties. For many women, substantive love for too long will not only not bring pleasure, but may also affect orgasm. Appropriate tenderness after sex is better than a long "marathon."

There is no after-effects for the four adults. A survey shows that in Asian countries, 40% of men show no tenderness to their wives after having sex. Ma Xiaonian pointed out that the absence of afterplay will make women think that "he only cares about venting himself and doesn't care about me at all." Hugging and chatting after sex can play a very good role in emotional lubrication.