I often hear people say that the husband of a pregnant woman is very frustrated because the wife puts all her body and mind on the child, and her sexual interest is greatly reduced. I am afraid that she will not be able to return to her married life in half a year. However, a recent "hot post" posted on a health forum has attracted a lot of discussion.

The poster said that for the safety of the baby, she and her husband have not had sex since she became pregnant. When the child reached 3 months old, she felt that she could resume her sexual life, but her husband always found excuses to refuse. "Either he said he was tired, or that I still need to nurse my wounds. It was such a big fuss that everyone barely did it once, but they couldn't find the passion they had before." Miss Wen said that she was about to collapse, and many netizens were also aggrieved, leaving Wen The lady asked her husband for an explanation.

“The more reluctant, blaming, and noisy you are, the more you will reach an impasse.” Experts said that no matter what the reason is for a husband’s “sexual frigidity”, he should not be too entangled. “It is best to not care, be tolerant or even Treat him more gently, and the husband will naturally return to normal family life. This probability can reach more than 95%."

Analysis one:

Stress. He has no intention of sex

Zhou Xing, director of the Urology Department and Andrology Department of the Second Affiliated Hospital of Guangzhou Medical College, believes that the pressure brought about by the birth of a child is one of the reasons why men experience reduced sexual interest and reluctance to have sex after their wives give birth. "You have to be busy with work and take care of your family, which adds a heavy financial burden. If the family situation is not good, men will be under greater pressure. Physical and psychological exhaustion will make men less interested in sex. Even if I do it reluctantly, it is difficult to return to the state before pregnancy."

Performance: Busy all day long, not talking much, falling asleep soon after going to bed, I can see that I am very tired. It’s not that there is no desire to have sex, but I only have the idea occasionally, and when I want to do it, I often can’t help myself. I feel weak halfway through, or I can’t get an erection at all. Because the mind cannot calm down, these men are more likely to suffer from temporary sexual dysfunction.

Countermeasures: The wife does not need to worry or be afraid, let alone make a fuss. At this time, what is most needed is understanding and tolerance. Don't deliberately have sex, and don't think about the impact of not having sex for a long time. When a man has sexual needs, his wife will actively cooperate. After a period of adjustment, the pressure of life is reduced, the psychological burden is put down, and the sex life of the two will gradually improve. If the problem persists after a year, you should seek help from your doctor.

Analysis 2:

The affair diverted his attention

“Some husbands don’t have much pressure, and it’s not impossible to have sex with their wives, but they always find reasons to refuse. It’s probably because they’re having an affair.” Zhou Xing said that many men are concerned about their wives’ deformed bodies and The stretch marks were frightening and they couldn't bear to abstain from sex for too long, so they went out to find girlfriends. Their situation is completely different from that of the first type of husband.

Performance: These husbands will be very enthusiastic at home, suddenly hug their wives and kiss them, say a lot of sweet words, and even coax their wives to go to bed early. But psychologically, he has no desire to have sex with his wife, so he will find many reasons to avoid his wife's sexual requirements. However, if they actually do it, their sexual function is completely normal, they just lack passion and just cope with the situation.

Countermeasures: Most men’s cheating at this time is just for fun, and they will not pay much sincerity. If the wife is entangled and serious about this, it is very likely that the man will be forced to actually run away from the house and fall into the arms of another woman. "Don't blame them for making noise, and don't force sex." Zhou Xing believes that it is best to treat your husband with a carefree or even gentler attitude than before, say more nice words, share more pleasant memories, and then experience raising children with your husband. of happiness.

When he feels that staying at home is relaxing and warm, and there are many things at home that require his participation and execution, the sex between husband and wife will also become normalized as the focus of life returns. Of course, 3 months after giving birth, it is necessary for a woman to perform appropriate self-grooming to enhance her “attractiveness”.

Doctor’s advice to women

Men, don’t be nervous when watching porn

On the one hand, Ms. Wen, mentioned above, is dissatisfied with her husband’s rejection, and on the other hand, she is afraid that he may have hidden agendas while watching porn. In this regard, Zhou Xing said that it does not mean that men have evil thoughts when they watch porn. Most of the time, they usually just find it fun and treat it as a pure viewing to pass the time. Since porn movies contain a lot of exciting and varied content, men’s curiosity can be satisfied.

“But it’s just like reading a magazine. There’s no need to be suspicious and resentful.” In fact, during the time when sex is suspended before and after childbirth, watching porn movies appropriately can help. Desire-relieving effect.