Only when couples can express their need for each other can they understand what each other cares about.

For example: Usually, my husband Guozhi goes to bed after watching the evening news, but today my wife Xiaoli is very tired and wants to go to bed early. She sat next to her husband and sighed for a while, but received no response. In the end, Xiaoli had no choice but to go to bed alone, sulking. She felt that her husband was not considerate of her at all, but she couldn't sleep.

Xiaoli didn't express her needs, so her husband certainly couldn't guess why she was unhappy. If both parties do not express their feelings and cannot understand the needs of the other party, communication problems will occur.

Speaking out your feelings openly can help couples build a closer relationship. When you value your feelings and express them clearly with appropriate words, you give the other person more opportunities to understand and accept you.

In fact, Xiaoli can express her thoughts very well. For example, she can tell her husband, "I am very tired today. I hope to go to bed early. I don't want to watch TV with you." If the husband says: "I want to watch more news, but there is nothing interesting in the news tonight. How about this, you go to bed first, and I will watch for another five minutes and then turn it off, okay?"

In this way, both husband and wife say what they are thinking and gain each other's understanding, so the problem will not be difficult to solve.