In the sexual life of a couple, there will always be a certain aspect that complains about the other person’s faults. I don’t know how it is, but it is always the same. But in fact, a harmonious and healthy sexual life requires the joint efforts of both husband and wife, so it is said that , we should learn to add more motivation to couples’ sex.

A harmonious sex life requires doing these things

1. A harmonious daily life helps to promote a happy sexual life. In daily life, husband and wife take care of each other and understand each other, which is the best way to strengthen the relationship between husband and wife, harmonize their mood, and enhance their intimacy.

2. Be responsible for your own sexual pleasure. Mainly for wives, wives have the right to make active requests for their own sexual pleasure. When you are not in good spirits or in good health, you should politely refuse your husband. In your sexual life, you must find pleasure for yourself and work hard to make your husband understand your needs.

3. Constantly change the way you have sex. Using one method for a long time can easily lead to boredom. Both parties should continue to innovate and can try different times, different environments, different locations, different postures, etc.

4. Don’t wait for orgasm. When women find it difficult to reach orgasm, they may wish to try other sexual lifestyles, such as self-touch stimulation, reading paintings and calligraphy with sexual content, etc. This may be helpful.

5. There should be appropriate sexual fantasies. In this way, the sexual pleasure of both parties can be increased.

6. Don’t bring dissatisfaction into your sexual life. If you do not cooperate with the other person in your sexual life or temporarily suspend your sexual life due to temporary quarrels, sulking, and grumbling, etc., it will bring hidden dangers to your future sexual life.

7. If you have any sexual life problems, you should consult an expert promptly. If one party has sexual problems, they should not be too shy to hide the problem and avoid medical treatment, otherwise it will bring more family troubles.

8. Don’t strive for perfection every time. Some people (especially men) always expect every sexual life to be perfect, otherwise they either blame themselves or the other person. You know, even experts in this field cannot achieve perfection every time.

There are 6 standards for high-quality sex life

Criterion 1: At least two romantic encounters. "For women, sex does not begin with taking off their clothes, but with the moment of contact with a man." Dr. Bonnie Jacobson, a British sex expert, pointed out in his book that 1 to 2 days before sex At least two opportunities for romantic contact should be arranged. Send a small gift to your lover, watch a romantic movie together, or send a flirty text message during work breaks. These actions will increase expectations for sex, especially for women to get into the state faster.

Standard 2: Achieve the three "purity, tranquility and purity". Dr. Jacobson said that before having sex, you should have "clean bedding, a quiet environment, and a pure heart." Clean and tidy bedding is a necessary prerequisite for sex. Cotton sheets and large-size beds are the best choices. A quiet environment means no noise and no interruptions from family members. Inner purity means having no distractions and no worries.

Standard 3: Foreplay lasts for 6 minutes. Proper foreplay is important for both parties. It can help women produce vaginal secretions and help men strengthen their erections. Dr. Cote, a psychologist and sex therapist in Michigan, USA, pointed out that the best "sexual foreplay" should satisfy people's four major needs of vision, touch, smell, and hearing, including provocative words, breath contact, kissing and caressing... The time is generally 6 to 10 minutes.

Standard 4: Substantial love for 7 to 13 minutes. Researchers from Beeland College in Pennsylvania, USA, found that substantive love (sexual organ contact) is most suitable between 7 and 13 minutes. If it exceeds 13 minutes, the man's fatigue will increase and it will be difficult to recover his physical strength; if it takes less than 7 minutes, both parties will feel that they have more to do.

Standard 5: Hug for 10 minutes afterwards. Ignoring "afterplay" is a common problem among men all over the world, but sex without afterplay is incomplete. Professor Ma Xiaonian from the Department of Sexual Medicine at Yuquan Hospital of Tsinghua University suggested that after each sexual intercourse, give each other some praise and encouragement, clean each other's private parts, or say nothing and hug quietly for 10 minutes, which can give both parties psychological satisfaction. Deepen feelings for each other.

Standard 6: Proper contraceptive measures. A new survey from the Kinsey Institute for Sex Studies shows that using birth control can help both parties have less worries and be more engaged during sex. Birth control pills and condoms are both good options. Of course, if you've decided to have a baby, just relax and enjoy it.