People have many evaluation criteria for sex: whether it is full of passion, whether they enjoy orgasm, the frequency of sex, etc. However, a recent article in the American "Preventive" medical magazine pointed out that a healthy sexual life should first be healthy, just like a healthy lifestyle, which will benefit both parties in the long term. Sexologists have summarized ten signs of healthy sex, and partners may wish to work hard in this direction.

10 signs of healthy sex

1. You are more confident in your body. Researchers from the University of Texas in the United States surveyed a group of women aged 18 to 49 and found that people who rated their body image higher were more satisfied with their sexual lives. Researchers pointed out that if people are always worried about body problems such as too thick thighs and too much fat on the abdomen, it will be difficult to fully enjoy sexual pleasure, and it will also affect lubrication and orgasm. If you feel unconfident about your body, you should learn to talk to your body, exercise more, and enhance your sense of self-awareness.

2. Tell the other person how you want to have sex. According to certified sex therapist Dr. Ariane Zodbord, good sex is like finding the perfect cooking recipe that couples share to create a feast together. In a healthy sexual relationship, you express your sexual needs directly and your partner can read your mind. If you find it difficult to express your sexual desires, sending a text message is a good idea.

3. Add sex to your life schedule. Many people believe that sex life begins with spontaneous desire, but sexologists point out that in busy modern life, it is very important to take the initiative to arrange sex. Healthy sex is arranged and regular. It is recommended that couples arrange a night for two to relax and slowly get into the mood.

4. Don’t care too much about the frequency of sex. San Diego sex therapist Dr. Christine Zesing believes that whether you have sex 2 to 3 times a week or only once a month, as long as both parties are satisfied, it is healthy. A study published in the Journal of Economic Behavior and Organization randomly divided couples into two groups, with one group doubling the number of times they had sex. The results of the study showed that couples who had sex frequently did not experience any greater pleasure than couples who had sex regularly. Pressure to have more sex can actually make couples less satisfied with sex.

5. Cherish your sex life. Regardless of whether you have reached orgasm or not, if you both regard sex as an intimate act with your lover and cherish and enjoy this moment, then your sexual relationship is healthy. "Did you feel more connected to your partner after you had sex? Did your mood improve? Those are the really meaningful questions," Dr. Zodbord said.

6. Do not treat sex life as an obligation. Although sex is indeed the duty of a lover, do not regard it as a chore, let alone have sex out of pity for the other person. Dr. Zodbord says there's nothing wrong with saying no to your partner if you don't feel like you're in the zone. If you do say "no," try to be the initiator the next time you have sex to show your partner that you want them.

7. You know how to make changes when appropriate. When both parties feel that sex has become dull, both parties will actively think of ways to make changes, such as changing rooms, wearing new clothes, or trying new positions. These are simple ways to restore the freshness of sex and are indispensable for a healthy sex life. factor.

8. Feel relaxed and happy when together. A study published in the Journal of Social Science Research showed that satisfaction with sex life includes being interested in sex, not minding the frequency of sex and rarely having sexual arguments. In a good sexual relationship, couples are relaxed together and find simple pleasures that are enjoyable even when they are not having sex.

9. There are unique sexual hints between couples. A study published in the "Journal of Social Sciences" shows that giving each other nicknames and making sexual jokes in your partner's ears can increase the satisfaction of men and women during sex. Sex therapists call it "simmering affection," which strengthens the physical and emotional connection between couples.

10. There are measures for sexual safety. Do a good job of contraception, avoid risky sexual behaviors, and clean your sexual organs. These small things are also manifestations of long-lasting sexual health.