Some people are both longing for and afraid of the upcoming first time. Some people have already experienced the first time but are still confused. How much do you know about the first time? No matter your age, gender identity or sexual orientation, here are 12 things you need to know about having sex for the first time:

1. Not only inserting a penis into a small hole means a loss of virginity

There are no unified regulations in the world on what behaviors should be included in making love, not to mention that there are many definitions of "place". People have different explanations for whether they have lost their virginity. So, losing one's virginity could mean penetration, or it could mean oral sex, anal sex, masturbation, whatever. Therefore, it does not mean that you have to complete certain actions to be considered a virgin, and it does not mean that you are a virgin as long as your hymen is not broken. You can define who your first time is for.

2. Will there be heavy bleeding for the first time?

Not every girl will bleed a lot when her virginity is lost, although some will bleed more. The bleeding is due to a tear in the hymen. The hymen tissue of women is different, and a few people are born without a hymen. And it’s impossible to predict how much a woman will bleed, some will bleed a lot, and some will bleed very little.

3. The hymen is not a virgin’s ID card

Again, the thickness of hymen varies from person to person. Some people have thinner hymens, and some people have fewer blood vessels in their hymens. In addition, many other activities can cause the rupture of the hymen, such as sports, masturbation, etc. It is not scientific at all to use the presence or absence of a hymen to indicate whether you have had sexual intercourse.

4. The first time shouldn’t hurt so much

If your first time is vaginal penetration, you will feel some pain and discomfort. But overall, the comfort should outweigh the pain. If you're in pain, don't let your partner come hard, you need a little more foreplay and lubrication.

5. Warming up beforehand is necessary

Many people skip other flirting and get straight to the point when making love. do not do that! Do some other activity to evoke your feelings before letting something else come into you. When you are sexually aroused, your lower body will feel a sense of expansion, helping you open up your body and enjoy it better. High-quality foreplay can also make men more engaged. Don’t miss this win-win link.

6. Lubricant makes everything better

Lubricants aren't just for those who can't wet themselves. Available to everyone. A little lube will make the whole process smoother and more comfortable. Especially for people who are visiting for the first time, be sure to be prepared. Oil-based lubricants can damage rubber condoms, so it is recommended to use water-based or silicone-based lubricants.

7. You probably won’t climax the first time

Fifty Shades of Gray lied to you, the reality is that women are less likely to orgasm than men. But there are some methods that can help you, such as having sex with a familiar partner, adequate foreplay, etc. Don't just limit it to piston movements. Other parts of the body are also very sensitive. As mentioned above, how to reach orgasm during sex requires a long time of getting used to your partner, so be patient.

8. The physiology and psychology are very similar, making it easier to achieve orgasm

Studies show that your boyfriend is more likely to make you orgasm than your sex partner. This is especially true for first-time partners. A sense of trust and comfort in being together can be very helpful in having an orgasm.

9. Use condoms

Not only for contraception, but also to avoid infectious diseases. People often lie about sex. It may be that the person is an experienced person but lies to you because they have no previous experience, or the person may not know whether they have a disease. Many times, some people are infected and carry the virus, but do not show symptoms for the time being. You cannot tell STI (Sexually transmitted infections) just by looking at them. So the best way is to use condoms with everyone as much as possible. Protect yourself and be responsible for others.

10. Maybe you can practice masturbating first

Especially for women, it can be helpful to try out an orgasm before your first one. Knowing what you like and don't like before your first time may make your first time less confusing.

11. There is no best age to lose your virginity

Just because you lost your virginity early doesn't mean you're promiscuous, and just because you lost your virginity late doesn't mean you're serious. What matters is your reason for losing your virginity and whether you feel comfortable with it. Don't stop doing it because of pressure from your parents, and don't do it because of the instigation of friends. Follow your own feelings and choices.

12. Others are just as nervous as you

When you have sex for the first time, you're doing something you've never done before. It's normal to be a little nervous. Everyone gets nervous. Relax, take a deep breath, take your time, and tell yourself that it's normal to be nervous.