Many people are prone to premature ejaculation during the newlywed period, especially in the first few days of sexual intercourse for newlyweds. The husband's penis has not yet come into contact with the wife's vagina or has just been inserted into the wife's vagina, and ejaculation occurs involuntarily, causing the penis to become weak. Can't continue having sex. So why is it easy for premature ejaculation on the wedding night? What should I do if premature ejaculation disturbs me on my wedding night?

Why is it easy to have premature ejaculation on the wedding night?

1. The problem of excessive sexual excitement: Because in the pre-marriage stage of love and intimacy, both the brain-level sexual activity "command" and the sexual organs are often in a state of high sexual excitement, which will inevitably cause the ejaculation center to also be sexually excited. , the requirement for sexual stimulation is reduced, that is, the "threshold" of sexual stimulation is lowered.

2. At the same time, for a newly married man who has sexual contact with a woman for the first time, the sexual stimulation is both sudden and very strong, so it is not surprising that ejaculation occurs quickly.

3. Sexual function has not yet functioned normally: This does not refer to sexual function problems, but refers to the turning point when sexual function meets the form of sexual life. The initial stage may not be fully adapted, and all aspects of neurological and endocrine activities are not yet complete. If you straighten it out, premature ejaculation will occur at the beginning. Later, you will gradually adapt and get used to it, and it will return to normal.

4. Excessive physical fatigue: Newlyweds often have to go through very tiring preparations before the wedding, and have to be busy welcoming guests and seeing off guests on the wedding day. At night, some friends were making noise in the wedding room. Therefore, the bride and groom in the bridal chamber are exhausted, mentally depressed or uneasy. If coupled with a lack of sexual knowledge, it is difficult to achieve a harmonious, happy and perfect sexual life.

5. Lack of investigation of the bride’s reproductive organs: A woman’s vagina is a muscular elastic tube with excellent stretchability. Why does it sometimes happen that the penis cannot be inserted into the vagina? It turns out that the intensity of the vaginal opening is affected by the hymen and the muscle ring of the vaginal opening. With the penetration of the penis for the first time during sexual intercourse, the hymen is blocked, and the intensity of the vaginal opening is shortened, which makes penetration of the penis difficult. As the number of sexual intercourse increases, the muscle ring expands and stretches to varying degrees, making the vaginal opening loose.

If you understand the reason, you don't have to worry about it if you ejaculate quickly during the newlywed stage. Otherwise, you will mistakenly think it is a sexual function problem, causing psychological and spiritual damage, and it will really induce sexual dysfunction.

In fact, premature ejaculation is mostly caused by psychological factors and is mostly a temporary phenomenon. The above-mentioned negative psychology of anxiety, worry and depression is not only unnecessary, but will increase the chance of premature ejaculation.

What should I do if premature ejaculation disturbs me on my wedding night?

First, you must make preparations first and don't have sex for the sake of sex.

Pure sex life can only play a role in completing the task. Therefore, it is very important to make preparations before sex. There are various forms of preparation, including affectionate conversations, listening to affectionate soft music, touching the "erogenous sensitive zone", emotional edification and intimate actions, etc., which will cause both parties to have sexual impulses. At this time, Only when you have sex will you be more likely to succeed.

Second, we need to adjust the different sexual cycles of men and women.

Men and women have different genders, and the cycle of emergence and subsidence of sexual excitement is also different. Generally speaking, men's sexual desire appears faster and is strong and vigorous, while women's sexual desire starts slower and is weaker. Men's sexual excitement comes quickly, reaching climax and ejaculating quickly within 2 to 5 minutes, and subsides quickly, while women's sexual excitement appears slowly, lasts longer after onset, and subsides slowly. Men's sexual desire is concentrated on the sexual organs earlier and is satisfied thereby, while women's sexual desire is slower and concentrated on the sexual organs. Sexual desire is not only satisfied on the sexual organs, but also requires care and comfort in language and psychology.

In many couples, the husband's sexual impulse is quite strong, but the wife's sexual impulse is late, or even indifferent; the husband ends ejaculation and the penis shrinks, but the wife wants to get local sexual stimulation. Because they failed to grasp each other's sexual cycle patterns, did not eliminate the "time difference" and "inconsistent pace" of sexual intercourse, a disharmonious sexual life emerged.

To prevent these situations from happening, we must fully understand the different sexual cycles of "men are fast and women are slow", and do a good job of sexual induction so that the wife's sexual impulse will come faster. Once the husband's orgasm has passed and the wife has orgasm, At the beginning, the husband should use caress to satisfy his wife on the other hand. Because the wife's sexual desire is extensive and not limited to the sexual organs like the husband. The sexual union between husband and wife is short-lived, but the spiritual happiness that two people feel from it is profound and long-lasting.

Third, both husband and wife must play the leading role.

The vast majority of wives blame their husbands for their inability to achieve orgasm. In fact, the key to achieving orgasm lies with yourself. At this point, it is easier for the husband to do it. As a wife, she is often passive during sex due to the influence of cultural customs. She does not take the leading role or enter the "role". Of course, she cannot obtain a satisfactory sex life experience. Therefore, the woman needs to play a good role. main character.