I always hear female friends around me complaining: Why does my husband always say good things about other people’s wives, but he doesn’t notice any of my own advantages? Why does my husband always like to look at his colleagues’ girlfriends? Doesn’t he take me seriously? After a couple has lived together for a long time, whether it is daily life or sexual life, it is inevitable that they will feel that they have lost the passion they had when they first fell in love.

Men all like to pursue novelty

All men see are the advantages of other people's girlfriends. In fact, many relationships do not have shortcomings. What is short is that you do not have the mentality and eyes to appreciate love.

Most men have the common problem of pursuing excellent girls, pursuing novelty, and pursuing new members of the opposite sex. Food and sex are the innate nature of human beings. Both men and women have this nature. Therefore, it is not difficult to understand that men have such a common problem. It is just the complex in their hearts. They feel less and less for their own girlfriends, but their interest in other people's girlfriends becomes more and more intense. This is also due to their psychological factors.

Shortcomings exposed

For his girlfriend, the passing time slowly dulled the passion of the past. The advantages that once filled her body gradually lost their color in a pair of eyes that stared closely at it. And because of the compatibility of the dynasty and the dynasty, the mottled spots that were once invisible are highlighted. Gradually, the girlfriend who was full of advantages became full of shortcomings.

As for other people's girlfriends, because you are only looking from afar, all you see are the advantages. Comparing the two, one's own girlfriend is getting worse and worse, while other people's girlfriends are getting better and better. This makes some men feel less and less for their girlfriends and appreciate other people's girlfriends more and more.

This is also a good reflection of the saying - it is easy to fall in love but difficult to get along with. In getting along day and night, the shortcomings of both parties will be exposed, making all the beautiful illusions in the early stages of love disillusioned. Therefore, many men and women who are currently in love choose to live together before marriage. This is also the main reason for the experience of trial marriage to see whether the two parties are really suitable for being together.

Men’s psychology of seeking novelty and difference

My girlfriend, after a long time, no longer feels fresh. As time goes by, passion is diluted by time. And other people's girlfriends always feel fresh because they haven't gotten them. There will always be infinite reveries. The figure, the body, and every possible detail will bring infinite passion. This desire for novelty and wanting to experience different feelings is the reason why most men fantasize about other people's girlfriends.

Therefore, female friends, you may wish to change your hairstyle, clothing, bed skills, etc. from time to time to give your boyfriend different experiences, so that your boyfriend will always feel fresh about you and full of expectations for you.

Men’s conquest mentality

For those other people's girlfriends who are good in their opinion, winning her heart is a kind of conquest. It is even more of a conquest to put someone else's girlfriend under you who is excellent in every aspect and even very arrogant in your own eyes. This desire to conquer is a man's unique domineering force, and it is also a manifestation of self-affirmation and stimulating self-confidence and passion. People with this kind of mentality often want to get what they can't get, and the more they can't get it, the more they have to get it.

Regarding men's conquest psychology, female friends may wish to try occasionally rejecting your boyfriend and acting coquettishly, so that it is not easy for your boyfriend to get what he wants. That way the man will try his best to conquer you, and then you can slowly rely on him. Men will feel a great sense of satisfaction.

Experience the sense of accomplishment of conquering a woman

After experiencing the novelty and satisfying the desire to conquer, the aroused passion is eager to experience the next novelty, and the next one, and the next novelty again. This kind of pursuit of novelty and difference again and again will allow those men to gain the pleasure of conquering others again and again, and this will make them feel more and more accomplished. Some even set goals for themselves, targeting certain people or reaching a certain number.

Nowadays, many women buy a lot of uniforms because their boyfriends have such a complex. Women are willing to play many different roles for men, allowing men to conquer them and satisfy their sense of freshness and accomplishment.

However, men need to be reminded that if you always stare at other people's girlfriends, your girlfriend may also be stared at by others. When you are secretly happy that you gave another man a cuckold as a gift, you may have been firmly held by a string of cuckolds.

Therefore, men must not act on this complex of theirs, and female friends must also find ways to keep their boyfriends by their side.