Will you be lucky this year? When your peach blossoms are blooming, which category do you classify your love? Do you know the psychological needs behind your relationship? I hope you will get the correct answers under the guidance of psychological experts, so as to firmly grasp the core driving force of "sustainable development of love".

The desire for "one-night stand" is human nature

"One-night stand" generally refers to sexual intercourse between a man and a woman under specific circumstances due to temporary feelings, impulses, admiration or the need to relieve loneliness. American sociologists define "one-night stand" as: sexual behavior based on human animal sexual attraction. It ignores the norms that lovers should abide by when getting along, such as character, quality, cultivation, etc. The essential difference between "one-night stand" and prostitution is that the former is for the satisfaction of the sexual and psychological desires of both men and women, while the latter is for the satisfaction of one party's sexual desires. It is essentially a money transaction.

According to Freud's psychoanalytic theory, the desire for "one-night stand" originates from the call of the "id" and is the expression of human instinct. Freud once pointed out in "The Future of an Illusion" that "man is an imbecile creature dominated by instinctive desires." Therefore, it is natural for people to desire "one-night stand". According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, sex is the satisfaction of human primitive needs, which exists at any time and without choice; while love is a high-level spiritual pursuit of human beings, which occurs under specific circumstances and is also there are choices. Maslow once said: "An important aspect that distinguishes humans from animals is that they have self-control." Therefore, heartbeat does not equal action. Under most conditions, people can restrain the impulsive desire for "one-night stand".

There are four types of "one-night stands"

"One-night stand" can be roughly divided into four types based on different psychological motivations.

Sex-induced one-night stand: It comes from sexual instinct, has a great liking for a certain person of the opposite sex, and desires intimate contact. The behavior is characterized by actively seducing the other party, waiting for the other party to respond positively, and expecting continued intimate contact.

Revenge-type one-night stand: Out of emotional injury, one has great resentment towards the person one loves (has), and hopes to make up for one's spiritual pain through sexual intercourse with others. The behavior is characterized by actively seducing someone of the opposite sex that one likes, expecting the other party to respond positively, but not necessarily expecting continued intimate contact.

Confused one-night stand: stemming from anxiety, feeling extremely uncomfortable with a specific environment, feeling very confused, and longing for the comfort and warmth of the opposite sex. The behavior is half-satisfied and half-satisfied, eager to obtain the satisfaction of sensory stimulation to fill the inner emptiness.

Suggestive one-night stand: Coming from situational suggestion, one has great curiosity and expectation for sexual suggestion in a specific situation, and is eager to try it. The behavior is half-prompt, and the "one-night stand" is pursued as a fashionable, popular or submissive behavior.

A prominent example of a sexually induced one-night stand was when the famous Chinese actor Jin Shan visited a certain country in 1951. Jin Shan was very excited about the meeting with the leader and said on the spot that he would conduct a good interview and write a good movie. The leader greatly appreciated this and asked his beautiful female secretary to serve as a tour guide and translator for Jinshan. But not long after, the two were found to have "made the mistake of going to bed." The leader was furious and ordered the female secretary to be shot. Since Jinshan was Chinese, he was handed over to Chinese leaders. Zhou Enlai ordered Jinshan to be escorted back to Beijing for processing. After returning to Beijing, Jinshan was expelled from the party, revoked from his administrative position, and placed under quarantine review. Thanks to the tolerance and protection of Jinshan's wife, Sun Weishi, Jinshan was spared the fate of complete decentralization. In December 1967, Jiang Qing still threw Jinshan into prison on the charge of "special suspicion". He was not completely liberated until the fall of the "Gang of Four".