Sexual impulse is an inner force towards the opposite sex and is a normal sexual psychology phenomenon. After a man enters puberty, sex hormones are continuously secreted in the body, and various physiological functions undergo mutations, causing the reproductive organs and their functions to mature rapidly. During the period of passionate love, sexual-related sensibility, emotion, memory, imagination and other psychological activities are extremely active. The girl's bright eyes, white teeth, slender figure and fragrant smell. In short, all the stimulation that the girl brings to the young man's vision, taste, hearing, touch and smell are important factors that arouse his sexual impulse.

If emotions are compared to oars, then reason is the rudder. Only with the tacit cooperation of the two can the love boat reach the other side of happiness. Perhaps what young men encounter before marriage is the test of this "control" ability. The waves caused by sexual impulse will make the young man confused and at a loss, and even overturn the "ship" and run aground. Only a strong-willed young man can calm the waves and set sail.

Premarital sex is a deviant behavior that goes against social morality during the love stage, and it is very harmful to the development of love.

First, premarital sex is illegal.

In our country, sexual life is the legal right of husband and wife and an important part of married life. It must be protected by law and cannot happen casually between any man and woman.

Second, premarital sex can easily cause frustration.

There are two prospects for love, either the lovers will eventually get married, or they will part ways without fate. If there is a sexual relationship, once one party likes the new and dislikes the old, looks for a new love, or breaks up due to some other reasons, it will cause serious setbacks and blows to the other party. For young women, it will cause greater pain.

Third, premarital sex can cause psychological disorders for both parties.

The parties often have sexual intercourse under tension and urgency. In addition, in most cases, young men lack the necessary sexual knowledge, so it is difficult to talk about a happy and harmonious sexual life. Not only can it lead to a decrease in the fun of sexual life on the wedding night, but it can also cause some girls to have abnormal views on sexual life, such as thinking that sexual life is painful, unclean, and unhappy, which leads to boredom, hatred, and fear of sexual life. , causing sexual frigidity and affecting normal sexual life after marriage. If pregnancy occurs accidentally, both parties will be put into an embarrassing situation. Although early abortion is safe, it will bring physical and mental pain and loss to the girl, and some dangerous complications may also occur.

Fourth, premarital sex may cause misfortune in married life.

Some young men have sex with girls without registering their marriage, thinking that they will be husband and wife in the future anyway. But afterwards, the girl's faults gradually came to light, and the young man felt dissatisfied. However, "raw rice became cooked rice" and it was too late to regret, so he had to forcefully get married. Similarly, some girls give in easily to a man's sweet talk. Over time, although they feel that the other person is not ideal, for the sake of reputation, they have to compromise and reluctantly marry. A marriage that lacks a foundation cannot be said to be happy.

So, how should young men adjust their sexual impulses when they are in love?

First, the mystery of "sex" should be demystified. Due to historical reasons, people in our country talk about "sex" in a negative light, and the idea that "sex is pornographic" is deeply rooted in some people's minds. Therefore, young men should read some books that introduce sexual knowledge to enhance their ability to restrain sexual impulses and reduce the mystery of "sex".

Secondly, young men should strengthen their will training. When sexual desire occurs, you should use corresponding methods to remind and hint yourself to relieve sexual impulse. In addition to falling in love with the girl, you can also participate in some useful social activities and entertainment activities with her to distract attention from sex and sublimate love. You must know that true love should be "mutual respect and noble, not just emotional impulse and whim." In passionate love, understand yourself, love each other, give lust a new charm, and use reason to measure the depth of lust. The wider the scope of a person's non-sexual love, the nobler his sexual love.

Third, use masturbation appropriately. When young men's sexual passion breaks out and reaches a "fanatical" level and they cannot control it, as long as they treat masturbation as a hobby and do not harm others and society, it can be regarded as an emergency method to regulate and channel sexual impulses.

Fourth, when getting along with girls, you should appropriately reduce your love words and overly intimate actions. From a physiological point of view, touching, kissing, and hugging are the most likely to arouse men's sexual desire. Therefore, young men must be good at self-restraint. As Shakespeare said: "Love is like charcoal. When it burns, you must try to cool it down. If you let it burn randomly, it will scorch a heart." Because sexual behavior involves responsibility for oneself, It also means being responsible for others and having an impact on society. The degree of will control in passionate love is a measure of the maturity of love.