Sex life is a concentrated expression of a person's overall psychological quality. Some people have difficulty having sex with their spouses due to certain flaws in their own personality.

The most common situation is that some people are demanding of each other during sex. Once a conflict occurs, they will only fight cruelly and will not take the initiative to give in or compromise.

The second is that some people, out of a sense of inferiority, are overly sensitive to all the other person’s behaviors, and often think that they have been sexually and psychologically hurt, but are never willing to reveal it to the other person. They think that It's a "begging". On the other hand, they will use offense as defense when it comes to sex, blaming the other party for all their inappropriateness and incompatibility in their sexual life, and even launch a "holy war" against the other party.

The third type is that because they have encountered various setbacks in life, some people still lack a sufficient sense of security even in their sexual life, which often leaves the other party at a loss and not knowing how to be considerate and caring.

These personality flaws are extremely harmful to a happy and harmonious sexual life, and the more they persist, the more harmful they become. For the parties concerned, self-recognition and self-improvement are needed, while the other party needs to fully understand the current situation they are facing; or go all out to help; or "long-term pain is not as good as short-term pain" and simply break up.

What methods can promote sexual harmony?

1. Adjust the twitching speed. When there is a sense of urgency for ejaculation, the man can withdraw his penis or pause the twitching, which can reduce the sexual tension, and then resume twitching according to the situation. Repeating such actions can significantly extend the time of intercourse.

2. Pull the scrotum and testicles. Since the scrotum and testicles contract and lift up during sexual excitement, pulling the scrotum and testicles downward during sexual intercourse can reduce sexual tension and delay the arrival of orgasm.

3. Pinch and squeeze the penis. When there is a sense of urgency for ejaculation, pull out the penis immediately. The woman places her index finger and middle finger on the upper and lower coronal sulcus of the penis, and puts her thumb on the corresponding part. Pinch and squeeze relative to each other, which can reduce sexual excitability. Relax for 3-4 seconds each time. Once, this can be done repeatedly.

4. Change the sexual position. Side-lying, woman-on-top, and sitting positions can prolong intercourse time because the man exerts less force and his muscles are relaxed.

5. Other methods such as cold compress on the penis and wearing condoms can also extend the time of sexual intercourse.