The man who cheated on his wife told the story of the conspiracy behind becoming a monk

I had a consultation yesterday. After scolding her husband for living a good life, the client had sex with Chen Shimei, regardless of herself and her two young children. Soon she filed for divorce and generously said, "I am willing to become a monk, which can be regarded as compensation for the things I have done to you." After hearing this, I asked her, "Do you know your husband's current income?" She shook her head, and I asked how much property their family had. She replied: I have two houses, two cars, and his salary card. I then asked, what does he do? ? She said: The marketing director of a well-known software company in Shenzhen. I asked again: Is his income just salary? She was confused and even asked me: Then what other income do you think he will have? I laughed and told her about a case I handled last year:

Miss Guo and her husband Mr. Zhang met, fell in love, and got married in Shenzhen ten years ago. At that time, Mr. Zhang was just a small business. After they got married, their lives began to get better. Mr. Zhang also started his own company with the help of his wife. But just when Ms. Guo was enjoying a well-off life, Mr. Zhang cheated on her. The third party was His own men. Ms. Guo was about to cry but could not fight against her husband and mistress. Until last year, when Mr. Zhang filed for divorce, he graciously proposed to "purify himself and become a monk." On the day the two completed the divorce procedures, Mr. Zhang moved out of the house. The children were ignored, and Ms. Guo was unwilling and suspicious, so she found me through a friend. At that time, after hearing her story, I also felt that it was unusual for her husband to be so generous, so I started to check his property. This check does not matter, the check I was shocked. Mr. Zhang had actually prepared for the divorce after his affair. What also surprised me was that the house their family lived in was a very ordinary community with three bedrooms and two living rooms, but there was a house not far from their home. In a high-end community, Mr. Zhang has already built another love nest: a second-floor house of nearly 200 square meters, and the car driven by his mistress can be considered high-end. Later, we also found out other properties that Mr. Zhang transferred and hid, and these properties all existed before their divorce and were joint property of the husband and wife. Later, with these clues, I advocated that Ms. Guo separately file the division of the joint property of the husband and wife. A lawsuit was filed in court, and she eventually got more of her property.

Nowadays, more and more cheating men will become seemingly generous - taking the initiative to ask for divorce from their wives, and "magnanimously" want to "purify themselves and become a monk". Many wives hear "purify" These four words, "become a monk", are somewhat comforting, thinking that this is really the "good nature" and "return of conscience" after the husband's affair, so he is so generous, so they will also be dazzled by these four words and feel happy. When they sign an agreement for divorce, they will also convince themselves in their hearts: Just let him go, no matter what, he will still be the "father of the child".

The conspiracy behind the cheating man’s talk about becoming a monk

Who knows, when they actually sign the divorce agreement, she will find out that many of the promises made by the man who originally said he was willing to "purify himself and become a monk" are only limited to an agreement, and whether he still has any property , they are also "Monkey Cha Cha", and it seems a bit late to regret it at this time.

Here, what I want to remind wives is that if one day, when your cheating husband comes to talk about divorce with you by "purifying yourself and becoming a monk", you might as well think about it calmly, because, just The four words they used to "purify themselves and become a monk" actually hide the following facts:

1. They covered up the truth about his cheating and completely wiped the "butt" of his cheating.

Presumably many wives who have been hurt by their husbands’ cheating have this feeling: when you find out that he cheated, you will clamor for divorce, but he is unwilling to divorce. I think it means that my husband still cares about himself, the family, and the children. I don’t deny or rule out that cheating men at this time will have these thoughts, but I think it’s more that they are still in an unstable period of cheating at this time, and they also It's just that the feelings and relationship with the mistress at this time are not enough to make him give up the marriage, or he is still lusting after the mistress. However, after a while or longer, one day, your cheating husband will suddenly ask you for a divorce, and say: "As long as you get a divorce, I am willing to become a monk," or: "Get a divorce, we have no relationship anymore." , I am willing to become a monk and give you all my family’s property, which can be regarded as compensation for you.” At this time, many wives often agree to divorce because they find that their husbands no longer seem to be with their mistresses at this stage. They will simply think that the divorce proposed by their husbands really means that they have no relationship. Besides, he is willing to "purify himself and become a monk." , then didn’t he get all the property? ! But the fact is, when a cheating man asks you for a divorce and asks you to "purify yourself and become a monk", he has already wiped his cheating butt. He knows clearly that if he tells you a divorce at this time, even if you go to arrest him The evidence of his cheating is all on his own, and you have no choice but to accept the fact of divorce.

2. Covering up the truth about the divorce. Even though it was his fault for cheating in the first place, he would still use the excuse of "broken relationship".

Don’t think that if a cheating man takes the initiative to file for divorce and generously gives you all his property, your wife will take advantage of it. Let’s not talk about property first, but just tell you the truth about the divorce. He will say that it is indeed you. There is no relationship anymore. In order to relieve each other, it is better to divorce. The "purify oneself and become a monk" he throws out is just to let you sign the divorce quickly. When you are divorced, he will have something to say. For example, you don’t have a good relationship with your mother, your personality is too irritable, you don’t know how to behave, etc. It’s all your fault anyway, so he will give you all his property in order to leave you as soon as possible. !

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The cheating man said the conspiracy behind his purification and monkhood

3. Covering up the truth about his property. He had already transferred and hid his property.

"Purify yourself and become a monk", as the name suggests, means that he will give you all the property in the family during the divorce. He will only take away his clothes and daily necessities. Anyway, he will give you all the valuables. What kind of house? , the car, the savings in your hand, etc. Anyway, everything you have in your hand, you know, you can see, is all given to you, but the question is, what about the invisible money and property? As a wife, have you ever known? In such a divorce, you feel that you get all of your joint property, but you don’t know about the “extra money”, “profit” and “value-added part” that he earned from running a business and working during the marriage. Many wives are not interested in divorce. You never know how much your husband earns when you ask him. In fact, how would you know that he had been "mindful" as early as the time of his affair, secretly "hiding private money", and when the relationship with his mistress "succeeded", he dared to tell her You are divorced, but he still dares to "purify his life and become a monk" with you. As long as you sign the divorce agreement, he will still live a well-off life. He and his mistress will have far more food, housing, transportation, and expenses than you. The "ascetic".

4. To cover up the scandal of his cheating, he uses "purification and becoming a monk" to win the support of his relatives and friends

If he cheats and gets divorced, let your elders and friends in the family know about it, and others will definitely Will call him "Chen Shimei", and when he expresses to others that he is willing to give you all his property and "purify himself and become a monk", this will not only win the recognition of his elders and friends, but also continue to maintain his former glory in front of relatives and friends. He will also brew and create this kind of atmosphere in the circle of acquaintances first. When such an "atmosphere" matures, there will be no hindrance to your divorce.

5. To cover up the truth after his divorce, he had already thought of a retreat and a way out.

It stands to reason that after a divorce, a cheating man can do whatever he likes and has nothing to do with his wife. But when he divorces, he will use "purify himself and become a monk" to pretend to be pitiful and Poor, this will also make many kind-hearted wives worry about their divorce, and even provide support, fearing that he will "start from scratch" again and live a hard life again. The truth is that these worries of wives are unnecessary, because when the cheating man is preparing for divorce, he has already thought of a way out with his mistress. He will never live on the street. He can just wait for his wife to sign the divorce agreement and get married. Xiao San has started his career again.

In short, no matter how sincere a cheating man is when he asks you for divorce, as long as he says the words "purify yourself and become a monk", it is definitely not a good thing. He is just trying to cover up a lot of things. It’s just the truth, and it’s for your own personal gain to achieve your goal as early as possible. Wives, you must think twice. If you are unfortunately deceived by his “purification and monkhood” and get divorced, you must check his property within a year to see if he is divorcing. If there has been any behavior of transferring or hiding property in the past, if any, a lawsuit can be filed with the People's Court within one year on the "division of common property between husband and wife", and the property can be requested to be re-divided and evidence of the behavior of hiding or transferring property can be provided to the court. This way you can divide more property.