Recently, there have been reports on the Internet that "men dressed in low-key, 'tall, handsome and rich', chatted up eight girlfriends on WeChat and defrauded millions of dollars", which aroused great concern and heated discussion among friends. Picking up a conversation, which Beijingers call "taoqi", is popular in various places in recent years to proactively meet the opposite sex. If you are lucky enough to meet your Mr. Right (goddess in your heart), how should you strike up a conversation?

One afternoon on the pedestrian street, Miss Xiao Lin was wandering alone. Suddenly a man came forward and asked politely: "Miss, what time is it now?" Xiao Lin said apologetically: "I'm sorry, I don't have a watch or mobile phone, so I don't know the time."

1. Surprise and surprise

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

One afternoon on the pedestrian street, Miss Xiao Lin was wandering alone. Suddenly a man came forward and asked politely: "Miss, what time is it now?" Xiao Lin said apologetically: "I'm sorry, I don't have a watch or mobile phone, so I don't know the time."

At this time, the man stretched out his hand, showed his watch and said: "I know it is 3:50 pm Beijing time. There is a movie showing at the cinema over there at 4 o'clock. Can I invite you to watch it?"

Probability of success: ★★★

Friendly reminder: This method does not exclude men and women, and is only suitable for those with a sense of humor.

2. Direct attack method

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

Zhao Zhao and several friends came out of the cafe, and the man who had been paying attention to her in the cafe just now also followed them. Zhao Zhao secretly smiled, wondering what the meaning of such childish tracking was. The man sped up to catch up, walked up to her in a few steps, spread out his hands to stop her, looked directly at Zhao Zhao, and said very seriously: "Hello! My name is **, I am a third-year student majoring in ** at University C. I am very hopeful. Get to know you and be friends with you." The friends laughed in good faith, and Zhao Zhao also smiled and said to him: "It's okay to be ordinary friends. Hello, my name is Zhao Zhao."

Probability of success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: Sincerity is the biggest secret to successful conversation. Only by introducing yourself candidly to the other party who is at a loss can you gain trust.

3. How to use your leisure time

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

Xiao Wang went to Beijing on a business trip and was stranded at the airport due to a delayed flight. When he was bored, someone suddenly tapped him on the shoulder. He turned around and saw that the person photographing him was a beautiful woman. She asked, "Are you also taking the first flight? Is it really delayed?" It turned out that the beautiful woman was also traveling alone, so Xiao Wang suggested going to the airport cafe for a drink. , the beauty readily agreed.

Probability of success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: Use the free time while waiting for the plane to go on a date. The environment and mood are good, and there is a sense of travel loneliness that you have never met before. Therefore, the chance of success in striking up a conversation is higher. For the same reason, this method can be applied to trains and ships.

4. Vest writing method

Applicable type: Male

The bus that Xiao Si often took was the girl that he often saw. One day, the girl finally found a chance to strike up a conversation with him. She sat behind him, and Xiao Si vaguely felt that something was going to happen. Sure enough, a tingling sensation suddenly came from her vest. He didn't look back and knew what she was doing. At the station, Xiaosi got off the car as usual.

The white T-shirt he wore read: I see you every day, can I be a friend? My phone number: 139......

Probability of success: ★★

Friendly reminder: Not every man has such good self-cultivation to let you write on his vest. He will probably jump up and shout: "Oh my God! My CK!" As for women who love clothes as much as their lives, this method is absolutely unacceptable. use!

5. Writing method on the palm of your hand

Applicable types: men, generous women

The specific situation can be referred to San Mao's "The Rainy Season Will Never Come Again". She found the boy she had secretly loved for a long time on the playground. Without saying a word, she took his hand and wrote his name and home phone number on his palm. A kind of silent romance spread in the hearts of the two teenagers.

Probability of success: ★★

Friendly reminder: When you rush to grab his or her hand, you may have to give a simple explanation, such as: I am not a bad person! Wait, otherwise it may be misunderstood as robbery. After all, not everyone can appreciate the realm where silence is better than sound.

6. It’s hard to find a true friend

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

During the Mid-Autumn Festival, the school had a power outage. Two girls, Momo and Mosquito, wandered the campus with nowhere to go and no one to love. They were frustrated when they suddenly saw two boys passing by with guitars on their backs. After silently discussing with the mosquitoes, they boldly walked up and asked, "Can I listen to you play a piece of music?" Maybe the hazy moonlight, annoying power outage and the girls' pleas moved their hearts. , and immediately readily agreed to their date.

Probability of success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: Everyone likes to show their strengths, especially those with special talents, and this reason sounds beautiful.

7. The scoundrel’s method of making a living

Applicable types: men, kind women

This is the method of chatting up devils taught by Zhenzhen. She came to her usual casual restaurant during lunch time, took a rice spoon, walked directly to the man who looked very pleased with her, and said to him who looked confused: "Your food looks delicious, can I Eat some?" He blushed and stammered: "Please, please." The laughter from his friends reminded him, and he quickly added: "Why don't I give you a small portion?"

Probability of success:★

Friendly reminder: It’s said to be the devil’s pick-up method.

8. Asking for advice with an open mind

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

Hedda fell in love with a girl in a red swimsuit at the swimming pool who could swim breaststroke well. He swam to the girl and asked: "Hello, you swim breaststroke very well, can you give me some advice?" The girl looked at him suspiciously, and he immediately said: "I can swim butterfly, why don't we exchange lessons?" The girl laughed .

Probability of success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: You must be truly humble in your humility, and hide your drunkenness. The possibility of rejection is not impossible, but at least it won't embarrass you.

9. Praise method

Applicable type: Suitable for both men and women, especially women

Dong Su caught up with the girl coming out of the shopping mall and asked, "How can I get to Renmin South Road?" After the girl gave her directions, he took a deep breath and said, "Oh my god, can you tell me what perfume you are using?" She immediately looked at her with caution. Looking at him, he explained: "I have been looking for this perfume for a long time. Did you buy it in this mall? What brand? How much does it cost?" A series of questions about perfume made the girl relax her vigilance, and she kindly told him the answer, He also took the initiative to take him to the counter. Of course she bought the perfume, but he gave it to her as a gift.

Probability of success: ★★★

Friendly reminder: Be careful to only ask what you want to ask, and don't let the other person feel that you have other ideas. Wear them a thousand times, and flatter them all. Everyone likes their taste to be approved of. And people are kind-hearted. When he or she tells you the answer, he or she also has time to see clearly whether it is worth leaving your phone number.

10. How to find a spouse in the theater

Applicable type: women

At the entrance of the theater, Haiyang held two of the most popular theater tickets, but the friend who had made an appointment to come with him suddenly failed to make an appointment. He wanted to watch it but felt that it was boring to be alone, and he was not willing to sell it to scalpers. At this time, a pair of girls nearby were asking scalpers for ticket prices. When they were about to give up because of the price, Haiyang walked over and said to one of the girls: "Can I treat you and your friends to a show?" He handed over the tickets. Give it to two girls, with only one request: I hope the girl he talks to will invite him to tea in the future. The girl was immediately moved by the selfless act and took the initiative to arrange a time and place to meet.

Haiyang left happily. He thought it was a good deal to exchange for an unknown love for a show that could be watched or not.

Probability of success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: This kind of spirit of sacrificing oneself for the overall situation is very impressive, but girls tend to get together, so don't make bad suggestions that only invite one person to see, otherwise the probability of success will immediately drop to 0.

11. Mobile phone messaging method

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

Dandan met him at the light rail station and fell in love at first sight. After getting on the bus, she had been thinking about how to strike up a conversation with him so as not to be misunderstood as thirteen o'clock. Seeing that the bus was about to arrive at the stop, she suddenly came to her senses and walked up to him and said, "Can I borrow your mobile phone?"

Maybe she seemed really anxious (certainly not for the phone call), so he immediately handed her the phone. After Dandan pressed a few numbers on it, her cell phone rang. Looking at him who was confused, she smiled and said: "My number is on your mobile phone. Can I contact you more often in the future?"

Probability of success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: Although cell phone robberies occur frequently, there are mostly kind people after all. As long as you don’t look very “criminal”, you can usually borrow the other person’s cell phone. This method is both subtle and effective, so it’s worth a try.

5 tips to help you successfully strike up a conversation with the opposite sex

Tip 1. Make yourself a "fate-friendly person"

Whether you take the initiative or be passive, making yourself appear to be an approachable and willing person is the first key to a successful conversation. Research in social psychology has found that people who smile, are willing to make eye contact, and integrate their body language into the surrounding environment exude the invincible charm of "fate-friendly people". Therefore, you should take the initiative to make eye contact with others and nod gently when your eyes meet to convey respect and friendliness. If at a party, everyone has a glass of wine, your hands must not be empty. If there is music, your body should dance with it. In this way, those who are interested in you and those who belong to you will be happy to get close to you.

Tip 2: Look for clues from the environment and speak elegantly

If you go up to you directly and say, "I like you very much, may I get to know you?" With luck, you will win the jackpot, but more often than not, you will frighten people and bring trouble to yourself, haha! The wisest thing to do is to look for clues from the environment and make your words generous and not abrupt. For example: in the supermarket, you can ask: "Do you know if this brand of products is good?" In the library, say: "I also like this book you borrowed." In a coffee shop, greet like this: "I am the Are you coming here once?" If you could politely add: "I'm sorry to bother you, please..." before speaking, it would be more likable!

Tip 3. Praise a woman’s temperament and affirm a man’s ability

Some men start by saying to a woman: "You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen..." This kind of direct compliment sometimes makes people wary. If you want to compliment the other person, a better way is to target her temperament: "I admire a quiet (generous) and elegant girl like you..." And if a woman wants to take the initiative to get involved with a man, from the perspective of asking for help, it is often easy Get a positive response: "My phone is having trouble (or my laptop is having issues), can you help me check it out?" Give men a chance to show off their skills, and they usually enjoy it. When a woman wants to compliment a man, she can also use a more roundabout way. When a man does considerate service for you (such as helping you get a drink), the best compliment is not: "Wow, you are so considerate!" A more thoughtful response is: "You know what? I appreciate considerate men! "By expressing your stance like this, the other party will know it well, but it won't be too explicit. Next, it is appropriate to advance or retreat. If your husband doesn't mean it, you won't be embarrassed.

Tip 4: Make a sound in the east and attack in the west, attack quietly

If you see someone of the opposite sex you like, but it’s not appropriate to speak directly, you can first find someone of the same sex as you and start chatting with a louder volume (hehe, you have to make sure he/she can hear you!): “Hi, how are you? ! I am so-and-so, are you here alone?" Start the conversation between the two. After a few words, you can casually turn to the person of the opposite sex you are targeting and invite him/her to join your conversation: "Hey, what about you? How do you know so-and-so?" When we don't feel like we're being picked on, but instead invited to join an ongoing conversation, we're usually more than happy to participate. So, go to a party, find a same-sex friend to hang out with, and you can take advantage of this approach. But remember, when the conversation gets better, the partner should find a reason to disappear, so that you can create an opportunity for the two of you to have a deep conversation alone.

Tip 5: Create opportunities to meet again

Don’t forget to turn today’s first acquaintance into a long-term interaction. A more natural way is to talk about the common hobbies between two people. You can say something like this: "That's great. I have a group of friends who are all movie fans. Let's call you next time we watch a movie!" It's very casual to use this way. The way to say it is: "Please leave your contact information and I will definitely contact you next time!" Or simply and generously say: "I enjoyed chatting with you today. Let's exchange experiences together when we have time next time!"

The above is a detailed introduction to 5 tips to help you successfully strike up a conversation with the opposite sex. I hope it will be helpful to you to further understand the psychology of gender. In daily life, if you fall in love at first sight, you might as well try the above methods to strike up a conversation with him or her, so that you can happily enjoy your world together.