Only by learning to constantly discover and appreciate each other's sexual attraction, can the communication between the two parties in sex become increasingly deeper and reach a higher level that unmarried lovers cannot achieve. People often say that falling in love is an art. This is true at all.

There are many tips for falling in love, and there are many rules to follow. This knowledge is not only of great benefit to unmarried young men and women, but also to married couples, the more the better. Because getting married does not mean the end of love, but the beginning of love and sex.

When they first start falling in love, the two parties always do not directly involve any sexual issues, but first observe and evaluate each other in terms of sexual attraction.

Only after feeling the sexual attraction of the other person and being satisfied with this attraction will the two parties engage in further communication.

Of course, this process can be very short and rapid, as young people often say, it seems that you feel "electric shock" when you see the other person; it can also be another kind, that is, feeling the sexual attraction of the other person for many years, And it's usually tacit. In the minds of young people, this is called "slow fire makes the food more fragrant".

For married couples, the same goes for the process of falling in love during sex. Only by learning to constantly discover and appreciate each other's sexual attraction can the communication and communication between the two parties in sex become increasingly deepened, thereby reaching a higher level that unmarried lovers cannot achieve.

For married couples, "simmering" may be more important and more effective. The sexual attraction of married people is not weakened, but strengthened, because only married people can continuously use specific sexual actions, expressions, emotions and language to more fully express summary sexual attraction in actual sexual life. Strengths, including those that had to be temporarily hidden before marriage.

In the next step of unmarried love, one of the two parties must first send a signal that he is trying to start direct sexual activities, or trying to guide the interaction and relationship between the two parties in this direction. After receiving such a signal, the other party will always make an evaluation and assessment, and then make its own feedback.

If the process goes smoothly, it can be very short-lived, the so-called love at first sight. If there are insurmountable obstacles, both parties will terminate the relationship, or the relationship will remain at the level of "pure love".

The same is actually true for married couples. If both parties believe that improving the quality of their sex life is only the other's responsibility, then no one will take the first step. Some people worry that the signals they send will be misunderstood by the other party, or that they will lose face because the other party does not respond; there are also some people (mostly wives) who are used to being passive and obedient, and have never thought that they should and can send out signals. Signal, just like in the "Silly Music Bar" black humor gallery forum, if you don't see funny posts, how can you laugh? ; There are also some people who are not willing to give in because they have some minor quarrels in other aspects, and they bring this conflict into their sexual life.

As a result, on the one hand, both parties feel that the quality of sexual life needs to be improved, but on the other hand, neither one is willing to step down first, or does not know how to get down. In fact, someone has to give in temporarily. This does not mean that the person who gives in first is in the wrong, but it proves that he or she is more enlightened than the other party, cherishes marriage more, and loves the other party more. Once such a signal is sent, as long as the other party is not unreasonable, he will definitely give feedback, and the little conflicts between husband and wife will often be solved easily.

Many married couples feel that since they have had sex many times, the other party will not misunderstand my signals. actually not. For example, many wives often feel "uncomfortable" or "upset" in various ways when their husbands don't notice that they need to have sex, and many wives themselves really don't understand why.

If the husband does not understand this and just cares about his wife's health as usual, or sends home underwear with moisturizing and health-care functions, then the wife's troubles will become more serious. Similarly, some husbands also want to have sex at certain times, but they are too embarrassed to say it directly, or they don't know how to say it. So some people are depressed in their hearts, and the more depressed they become, the more angry they become; some people start an unknown fire with their wives, making things worse and worse.

If there is disharmony in the sexual life of a married couple, one party will be more troubled and painful. For example, some husbands take frequent sexual intercourse too seriously, and will be distressed if there is disharmony, while wives don't pay much attention to it, and end up acting like nothing is wrong.

Another example is that some wives feel that having sex means completely devoting their whole soul to their husbands. Once there is disharmony, the wife will feel that she has suffered a huge loss; but the husband does not understand this and feels that sex life is just a physiological matter. process, and therefore less troublesome. Another example is that the reason why many wives hate their husbands' extramarital affairs is because, as women, they do not want or cannot make extramarital choices.

Sometimes, falling out of love can lead to antagonism. This is often caused by mutual misunderstandings in relationships. The main misunderstandings are:

1. The two parties have inconsistent understanding of signals and feedback, so one or both parties feel that they have been deceived or insulted.

2. The two parties have different valuations of their respective inputs and contributions, so one or both parties feel that they have suffered a greater loss, especially in aspects they cherish.

3. The party who first proposed breaking up did not give any reasons, or the reasons stated were not acceptable to the other party. Therefore, the other party felt that he had been abandoned without any reason, seriously damaging his own personality and dignity.

4. The relationship between the two parties is subject to certain social pressures, and love "can only succeed but not fail", and one party feels that the other party has put all the responsibility for the failure of the relationship on himself, and feels that he has suffered a greater injustice.

If you think about it carefully, aren't those couples who have enmity due to poor sex life also caused by the above-mentioned misunderstandings?

On the first point, some husbands force their wives to do some sexual actions that she does not want to do, and regard their wives' resistance as "half push" or "say no with their mouths, but say yes in their hearts". As a result, the wife naturally feels that she Suffered oppression and abuse.

On the second point, wives often cherish the consideration their husbands give them when they lose their virginity in the bridal chamber, while some husbands think it is a matter of course and nothing special at all. As a result, once the husband is rude or reckless, the wife will find it emotionally and personality intolerable, and may even have a bad opinion of her husband.

On the third point, if a husband or wife refuses to have sex, but is unwilling to give the reason, or cannot say it gently and tactfully, then the feeling of abandonment produced by the other party must be stronger than that of the lovelorn. many.

As for the fourth point, I am afraid that the husband feels more social pressure. What man is willing to tell others that he is not good in bed? What real man wouldn't be frightened at the first hint of "impotence"? However, if the husband says that it is because his wife is too cold and affects his mood, the wife will definitely be angry after hearing this. Because she thinks this is called "blaming the pit because you can't poop".

All in all, falling out of love is often irreversible, and falling out of love is often unavoidable in many people's lives. Therefore, only those who are good at constantly learning and summarizing in interpersonal relationships in love can successfully overcome this difficulty and be able to invest in future love more maturely.