Children often ask their parents: Where did I come from? Many parents are too shy to answer, or answer vaguely. There are also parents who are worried that their children will mature prematurely and severely reprimand their children. In fact, treating children's sexual issues correctly and guiding children to understand sex will help children grow up healthily.

1. Why is sex education necessary?

Children’s early sexual awareness needs guidance. Sex education is a need for children’s early physical and psychological development to a certain age. Early childhood is a very important period in life. Sex education during this period will, to a large extent, determine the child's "sexual identity" throughout his or her future life and affect future gender behavior and sexual orientation goal selection.

Correct and appropriate gender empathy needs to be cultivated. Children have developed the concept of boys and girls in their daily interactions with peers, and will engage in some sexual behaviors, including caring for human body organs. Sometimes it is one person, sometimes it is between partners of the opposite sex, or they let each other see their sexual organs, or touch them with their hands, or even play some sexual games such as imitating doctors and lifting skirts.

There are certain rules for the development of human sexual psychology and the formation of gender roles. Generally, it is normal to allow it to develop naturally. If the education method is improper, abnormal results will be formed, which will affect the younger children. This is especially true for children.

As children come into contact with people around them, they will gradually understand how a boy should be and what a girl should be like; in addition, there are a series of normative requirements for children of the same sex and opposite sex to interact with each other, because society treats men and women differently. Gender role expectations and gender requirements for role behavior are different. The formation of this kind of gender-appropriate psychology of men and women requires corresponding sex education.

2. Parents’ misunderstandings about sex education

Liangliang usually likes to play house with her neighbor Tingting. Once, when the two were playing, Liangliang said to Tingting He said: "You are my wife" and then pulled Tingting into the "bridal chamber" in a decent manner. The two of them were lying on the bed and didn't know what to do. Liangliang suddenly came up and kissed Tingting. Unexpectedly, Tingting immediately ran out crying and told Liangliang's mother that Liangliang bullied her. As a result, Liangliang was slapped several times by her mother and she couldn't stop crying.

Seeing "sex" change color and reprimand the child. Children are very curious about the differences between boys and girls, and they also want to peek when their parents are taking a bath. In reality, parents are very careful about their children and do not want their children to get involved. Therefore, when they see their children imitating some intimate behaviors between adults, such as kissing, hugging, etc., some mothers angrily stop them: "Don't move!" "I'm so embarrassed!" Or force them away with their hands or even beat them severely. .

This approach will form a misconception in children: Intimate behaviors with friends of the opposite sex are bad and shameful, and these behaviors must be suppressed and punished.

One day Jingjing said to her mother: "Grandma said I picked it up from the garbage dump. Is this true?" Her mother was very embarrassed and coaxed her while saying: "Your grandma is right. , you just picked it up from the trash. I will tell you when you grow up and get married." Jingjing went to kindergarten, and one day when her father picked her up from kindergarten, she Asked: "Dad, why do some children have to stand when going to the toilet, but I have to squat? I secretly looked at Xiaohu, and we looked different. Why?" Dad said, "You will naturally know how to do it when you grow up. I understand. Also, you should pay attention when you go to the toilet in the future, and don’t stare at others. That is not a good boy.”

It is taboo to talk about scientific knowledge about sex. In traditional education, parents always avoid talking about "sex" issues with their children and let their children explore on their own, which often causes many children to make mistakes due to temporary curiosity about "sex". In fact, you can talk to your children about sex issues in a natural way when they are young.

In addition, parents should also pay attention to their words, deeds and privacy at home, let their children develop good habits, and always remind their children how to protect themselves in a timely manner to avoid being harmed by bad people.