Is it okay for a husband and wife to be too close? How can couples maintain a sense of happiness? Let’s take a look at how partners who are too close can often cause trouble.

Human beings have a basic need to have parts of themselves that cannot always be shared with others. In life, lovers or couples who are as close as one person often cause some troubles and even unexpected endings. After getting married, some people can't help but regard their partner as the most important person in their life, especially women, who must be "as good as one person." Du Yujin believes that partners who are too close will feel unhappy.

A survey was conducted on couples who have been together for a long time. The result is that some couples are often annoyed by interfering with each other and taking too much care of each other. Some husbands complain that their wives interfere too much or nag too much, and they lack quiet time; The wife complained that her husband had to ask and evaluate everything, and she could not handle things independently. This phenomenon is certainly difficult to understand for those who feel that there are too few opportunities for couples to get together. In the relationship between husband and wife, maintaining yourself is one of the secrets of a happy marriage. Many people not only give up themselves after marriage, but also ask the other person to give up themselves, requiring the two people to merge into a "third body" established for marriage. In fact, it is not advisable to sacrifice oneself for the sake of love or to let the other person sacrifice themselves. Du Yujin introduced some practices to help people maintain themselves, such as regularly "leaving behind" their partners and only gathering with friends; insisting on keeping a diary, recording only their own interests and hobbies; spending 10 minutes a day alone, closing your eyes, and thinking back. The people, places, and events that leave a deep impression on you are like signposts on a long journey and will help you determine "who I am."

Six things couples should avoid when quarreling

Husbands and wives cannot always be harmonious. There will always be conflicts and disagreements. At this time, quarreling is the simplest and most direct solution. In fact, quarreling can enhance relationships, but don't cross the bottom line, otherwise it can only destroy relationships.

Don't attack each other's "weaknesses" when a couple quarrels

Everyone has their own weaknesses. Lovers are not enemies. When fighting and quarreling, you can only deal with the problem and not the person. You cannot be aggressive, and you cannot use "exposing one's shortcomings" as a way to vent your anger. Otherwise, minor conflicts are likely to occur. Become hostile.

The quarrel should be targeted and not involve other things

Some couples always escalate trivial matters, often expand their goals when quarreling, and bring out all their old and new grudges to settle accounts. If this happens often, it will go beyond the scope of a quarrel and easily lead to a situation of clear-cut enemy and friend, thus causing emotional rifts.

Don’t quarrel if you are not conscious

When people are unconscious, they often do impulsive things, such as drinking, being extremely depressed, being hit, etc. If there is a conflict at this moment, even if you face your lover, you may regard him as an "enemy" and may even engage in violent behavior. So, don’t quarrel when this happens.

When quarreling, use words but not hands

Fighting between husband and wife is good for bonding the relationship, but fighting does not have this effect. Instead, it can bring the relationship to a dead end. Therefore, no matter the quarrel, no action should be taken.

Don’t have a winning mentality when quarreling

Conflicts in marriage cannot be judged by "win or lose." If it is used as a tool to measure family status, then quarrels will not promote feelings, but will cause couples to "draw boundaries" and lead to confrontation.

Don’t “punish” the other person by separation or running away

After many couples quarrel, one spouse will "punish" the other by running away from home or living apart. Such childish behavior will not lead to compromise from the lover, but will only deepen the gap between the two, and even lead to a cold war, which is more likely to trigger a new crisis.

The above is all about the six points that couples should avoid when quarreling. I hope everyone can resolve the matter peacefully without quarreling, and don't get involved in quarrels. Only in this way can there be harmony and beauty.