I am 56 years old this year, and my husband is 6 years younger than me. We used to work in the same company. We had common hobbies when we were young, and gradually developed a relationship. Under his vow of "forced attack", I finally let go of my future career. Worried, I entered the palace of marriage with him.

But now the good times are gone. A recent accident let me know that he has a mistress who has been dating for 12 years. I can't accept this fact. I want to divorce, but his company has been in a recession in the past two years. Now the company There is not a penny. The wages of his seven employees in the past two months were all taken from home, and now there is no money at home. The contract he signed is worth about 10 million, but he will not get the money until the project is completed, around 2018.

In other words, if I get divorced now, I can only keep the house and no money, but if I don’t get divorced, he said that he has feelings for his mistress and it is impossible to break up for a while. He asked me to endure it and said that they would let nature take its course. Break up slowly, but I can’t say how long it will take to let nature take its course. I can’t hold on to the person and I want to hold on to the money, so I have to endure it for 5 years. When I have the money, I will file for divorce. As the injured party, I should I got more compensation, but I felt like I couldn't bear it for that long.

I can honestly say that my husband is very good to me. Although I am older than him, he is the eldest son of his family and is very capable, so he is in control of everything at home, from decorating to cooking. She takes good care of everything, cooking for me, pouring water for my feet, taking me to shopping malls, etc. Maybe he feels guilty about me. He also told me that if you really divorce me, you won't be able to take care of yourself.

Our current living situation is that he has to meet his mistress for half of a month. He has to have dinner at her mistress's house every one or two days, and then goes home before 11 o'clock in the evening. He has to go to his mistress every Saturday. Stay home for a day. The mistress is divorced and has an 11-year-old daughter. Because her ex-husband has an agreement not to let men stay in the house overnight, so he doesn't stay overnight.

My husband said that because my age cannot satisfy his sexual needs, the mistress is 9 years younger than him. She is 41 years old this year, 15 years younger than me. So he begged me to endure it for a few years, and when they no longer had any sexual needs, they would naturally break up, saying that he only wanted sex. My husband says that I am better than that mistress in terms of temperament, spiritual pursuits, hobbies, and talents, except for my age. He doesn't want to divorce me.

But every Saturday, every holiday, every time he doesn't come back, it's really painful for me.

what should I do? In fact, I still want my marriage, even though it is no longer perfect, but I don't know how I should endure it and how I can get over this hurdle.

How should an old wife and young husband resolve conflicts

It’s definitely a miracle that you didn’t notice your husband cheating on you for 12 years. The information Miracle provided me is: You trust your husband so much that you don’t even think that your husband is cheating on you. The husband will not divorce and the lover will not force marriage. The triangle relationship between you, husband and lover is balanced. Otherwise, any additional actions by either party will break the balance.

Men who can make money, go shopping with their wives, and cook meals and wash their feet are almost extinct. You are very lucky to have met one. As a man, this man is perfect. As a husband, cheating is his flaw. He is so kind to you, and the reason you gave is compensation for your guilt, but what I see is a man's deep love for a woman, and it has become a habit. Mere guilt compensation cannot do this. There is deep love here. When you meet such a good man, forgive him. Since you admit that you cannot satisfy his sexual requirements, just pretend that someone else can solve it for him on your behalf.

What did you want when you married him? Isn't it good for you to never leave? You got everything you wanted in the first place, how could you give up a great man to her just because you cheated on her?

Money can't bring you happiness, but this man can. The perfect husband does not exist. If it were him, I believe it would be difficult for you to meet such a man. Husband and wife are still as good as their original spouses. If you meet such a good man, just forgive him.

I don’t know what’s wrong with your sex life. In terms of the relationship between sexual matching and age, it’s easier for older wives and younger husbands to be more sexually compatible than men and women of the same age. Life goes on and sex goes on. The idea that sex is no longer necessary after a certain age is outdated and backward and is not in line with the facts. Your age should be the age when you need sex. Have you voluntarily given up on sex life because of your age? If so, get back into sex. You can use lubricants if your vagina is dry, and you can use auxiliary tools if your sexual arousal is slow. Age is definitely not the reason for your sexual disharmony. There must be other reasons.

Seeking sexual satisfaction from your lover is only one of the reasons why your husband cheats. Your aloofness and habit of being taken care of may be the real reason why your husband cheats. I hope you will restrain yourself. "If you really divorce me, you won't be able to take care of yourself." After hearing this sentence, besides being moved, shouldn't you feel a little guilty?