People in their 20s call themselves "leftover women" and those in their 30s enjoy the life of a "winner"

The survey shows that 60% of people think that "leftover women" are just left behind by marriage.

Nono, who just celebrated her 23rd birthday, also just completed her 12th blind date, and the result was still zero. Anxious, she kept changing her QQ signature, but she couldn't do anything without love and marriage. Tao Tao, who is almost 30 years old, recently received a call from her mother to "snatch her soul", asking her to take one back at the end of the year, but she still turned a deaf ear and went her own way.

The term "leftover women", which was originally defined as older single or unmarried women, now seems to have a new definition. Sohu Women's Community and Qianjiang Evening News jointly conducted a survey of 100 people on this, which showed that whether there is any leftover or not depends on the mentality.

Anxiety disorder caused by blind dates

When I was in my early twenties, I was worried that I would not be able to get married

“When I was studying, I never thought that I would become a professional blind dater in the future.” Nono graduated from college last year and returned to her hometown to work as a community doctor. “My hometown is a small town, and many of my peers have regular boyfriends, even Already married." And Nuonuo is the oldest single woman in the family, so she naturally becomes the family's first choice. In such an environment, Nono couldn't help but become anxious.

In one year, she went on blind dates 12 times. But every time there was no result. Nuonuo feels that the problem lies with each other: "Some people's age and work are not compatible with me; some people ask their mothers to accompany them on blind dates, but they don't say a word; some even come directly from their mothers..." There is a slight objection. I am attracted to her, and I think Nono's work is too busy.

"Recently, my cousin introduced me to a female friend of hers, saying that this female friend would help me introduce a boyfriend. But this female friend is already a bit old..." The female friend is older and What does introducing a boyfriend have to do with it? It turns out that Nono was anxious, worried about whether this female friend might be the mother of a certain man. "After so many blind dates, I feel like I'm about to have an anxiety attack. Now when I see the word 'left', I get worried." But the blind dates must continue. Nono's goal is to find a boyfriend before the end of his life.

The survey shows that among the 138 respondents, 67.39% believe that if divided by age, only single women over 30 years old are "qualified" to be considered "leftover women". Nono is obviously not qualified. . Regarding the analysis of the mentality of people who call themselves "leftover women" in their 20s, the average interviewee believes that their goal is very clear, that is, to find a husband, and a good husband, not a boyfriend. Marriage is the most important thing. . It seems that taking a realistic route instead of a romantic love route has become the goal of many young "leftover women".

I regret that I didn’t fall in love during the LOLI era

But I prefer living alone now

After the Chinese New Year, Tao Tao will be 30 years old. But she doesn't know if this year will pass peacefully. "Last week, my mother called again to urge me to bring someone home during the Chinese New Year, of course a man!" Tao Tao seemed a little impatient, "I just saw a man in a magazine last time. What the woman said: 'If you have a man, just have one, and if you don't have it, forget it.' How good it is. Is it necessary to be so anxious?"

Tao Tao is enjoying her current life. I work when I am busy, stay at home when I am free, go shopping and drink coffee with my sisters when I am in a good mood, and drive alone on the river when I am in a bad mood. "If you want to be lively, be lively. If you want to be alone, no one will bother you. If there are multiple men around, this will be troublesome." It's not that Tao Tao doesn't have male friends around him, but they are just friends. She said that she must say what she regrets, that is, not falling in love during the LOLI era. "But I fell in love at that time, but now I may not be so free. Sometimes, when I see the female friends around me worrying about love and marriage, I feel really happy. From this perspective, I don't seem to be a 'leftover woman' , but 'Sheng Nu'. Haha!" Tao Tao laughed. It seems that she prefers her current single life. As for my mother, if you can, just do it!

In our survey, 36.23% of the respondents believed that people in their 30s who do not consider themselves “leftover women” generally prefer the freedom and lack of restraint of being single. But it is worth noting that 61.59% of people think that these older women who deny that they are "leftover women" are just trying to hide themselves, but they are actually just as worried.

When outsiders have labeled a group of people as "leftover women", it is no longer important to outsiders what this group of people think; similarly, this group of people are convinced that they are "winners" Afterwards, what does it matter if others think they are "leftover women"?

If you are anxious, you will be "left"; if you are not anxious, you will be "win"

If we are not divided by age, what kind of women are considered "leftover"? According to the survey, 45.65% and 44.2% of people chose "eager to get married" and "eager to end their single status" respectively, which was almost the same. However, only about 10% chose "all singles are considered leftover women".

It is not difficult to see that the word "eager" is crucial, and this is a manifestation of a mentality. In other words, if you are not in a hurry, even if you do not get married or even have a boyfriend, you cannot be considered a "leftover woman".

"'Leftover women' are not left behind by love, but by marriage. It is better to be lacking than to be left behind." 57.97% of the respondents took this as their attitude towards "leftover women". We seem to be seeing more understanding and support. More and more people are noticing that "leftover women" are the result of a "structural imbalance." When women become financially independent, it is their right to pursue romantic love and high-quality marriages.

The biggest difference between Nono and Tao Tao is not the 7-year age difference, but their anxious and not anxious mentality. In this sense, Nuonuo may be more in line with the standard of "leftover woman" than Tao Tao.

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