Q: I’ve done foreplay for my girlfriend, but when I’m about to insert her, I go limp... so I ask her to blow me twice before I can get an erection. But when I got an erection and put on the condom, she became cold again. Do you know why? Or how can I stay hard when I do foreplay for my girlfriend (so as not to reduce the effectiveness of the foreplay)?

Answer: According to this friend’s description, this state does not sound like having sex, but rather like some preparations and procedures. Foreplay is not a prescriptive set of actions to be completed, but a process of amplifying sexual stimulation (feeling) when there is feeling. Only during this process will the woman's reaction be good, and her appearance will also be Produce some stimulation to men. After a boy has stimulation, his erection will not weaken, but will continue. If the boy feels that he is completing the task during this process, and the girl's reaction does not satisfy him and does not provide continuous stimulation to her, then the reaction will naturally cool down.

So when two people are having sex, don't have sex just for the sake of having sex. When you have feelings, follow the feelings and amplify the feelings. This is foreplay. When the foreplay is good and both people are very excited, wearing a condom will never make them lose interest, for example, it becomes less wet or less hard, etc. So this problem is not a technical problem, but a problem of our perception.