The boy who is about to enter high school actually dare not take the initiative to say hello to the guests and is still shy when speaking. This has made some parents anxious. In order to let their children regain their boyish nature, they go to tutoring centers and ask for "sunshine boys" to play with them. Reporters recently learned from some tutoring centers in Shanghai that since the summer vacation some parents have hired tutors for no other reason than to correct their children's gender awareness.

Relevant experts say that society generally cares a lot about girls’ education, but not enough attention has been paid to boys’ character education.

Not a boy at 15 years old

15-year-old Cui Cheng has always been a good boy. He finished his high school entrance examination this year and is on a stress-free holiday, but his father arranged for him The new task is to spend a morning with the tutor every morning, studying and chatting. Mr. Cui told reporters that the child is so old and still talks coquettishly, just like a girl. I used to ask for a female tutor. This time I just found a boy for him and I have to help him get back to being a boy. .

Mr. Cui said that he has always been very busy at work. His wife has taken care of his son since he was a child. His wife likes girls and sometimes dresses little Cui Cheng like a girl. As his son grows up, he becomes more and more... Jing Jing is timid. When he taught his son how to ride a bicycle a while ago, his son was so frightened that he cried. He realized the problem was serious.

“In the past, girls’ tutoring was more popular. Nowadays, there are especially many boys who want boys. Some of them do not require boys to be patient. The key is to be lively and have a boy’s personality.” An intermediary from a tutoring center in Yangpu District Teacher Zhang said that recently, parents looking for tutors tend to spend the summer vacation with their children, and male tutors mainly play with boys.

Worried about the lack of men in the future

“Boys are too problematic, and this should attract social attention.” Wang Jin, director of the Psychological Counseling Station in Pingliang Street, Yangpu District, has been paying attention to this issue for a long time , she encountered this problem many times when consulting residents. Many of the "2030" unemployed young people on the streets are boys. Some have no sense of responsibility, some are afraid of setbacks, and some are lazy.

“Boys are really becoming less and less like men, and compared with girls, they are incomparable in many aspects.” Wang Jin said that this year, 10 students from Kongjiang Middle School were admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University, and all of them were Girls, the five probationary party members on the list are all girls. "This is definitely not normal."

Wang Jin herself has a daughter, so she made half-truths and half-truths to the parents of boys in several lectures: "You must quickly train your sons well, so that our daughters will not be able to find men in the future." ."

The reporter then interviewed the head teachers of several primary and secondary schools in Yangpu and Hongkou. Everyone generally reported that girls are generally better than boys in school, most of the class cadres are girls, and there are indeed some "sissy" boys. a proportion. Nowadays, many families have only children, and only-child boys are generally more favored. Mothers, especially, will still show doting on their sons even when they are in junior high school. Boys of the same age are generally not as sensible as girls.

The late maturity of boys manifests itself in marriage, which means that they lack a sense of responsibility and have no awareness of taking on the overall situation. An incomplete survey shows that among divorced people under the age of 35, 40% are wives who think their husbands are "unmanly".

Boys should be educated earlier

“It is the current negative environment that educates boys to be less like boys.” Yang Xiong, director of the Youth Research Institute of the Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences, said that starting from kindergarten , most of the boys come into contact with are female teachers. Exam-oriented education advocates careful and repeated training. Including today's film and television entertainment, boys are all girl-like with long hair, and the whole society advocates feminine beauty.

He said that only-child families are most likely to corrupt boys' fighting spirit. Not only do these boys tend to lack a sense of responsibility and tolerance, but they also tend to be selfish and careless. The latest research shows that boys in only-child families are generally doted on by their mothers and are most likely to be homosexual and effeminate.

Boys nowadays rarely do outdoor sports. Most boys like to watch TV, play computer games, and watch cartoons. These have caused the right brain to be over-developed, and they are used to jumping and montage-style illogical thinking. They like to play virtual games but do not understand How to feel about others and things around you, it is easy to become selfish and indifferent.

Experiments also prove that girls before marriage like negative boys, and women like sunny men after marriage, which is related to hormone secretion. But in fact, some boys are still acting like children when they reach marriageable age. After getting married, some still go out to Internet cafes all night long. They do not know how to be a husband or how to care for their wives. They have no sense of "shoulders" and cannot bear the heavy burden.

“Boys’ gender awareness should be cultivated as early as possible, and kindergarten classes are the most suitable, so there should be more male teachers here.” Yang Xiong said that fathers have a very important role model for their sons, so fathers should be more Spend more time with your son.

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