Sexual errors are often caused by the inability of both parties to master the rhythm of sex. Without sex, we feel that the other person is not good enough. However, excessive sex life is not only bad for the body, but also very harmful to the psychology. Let’s take a look at the best frequency of sex.

1. Harmonious sexual life

In order to live a harmonious and harmonious sex life, both husband and wife should understand basic sexual knowledge, especially the normal differences in sexual function between men and women.

Otherwise, husband and wife cannot cooperate with each other tacitly. To sum up, the sexual functions of men and women have the following differences:

(1) Men’s sexual desire is strong and vigorous, and can cause sexual excitement at any time; women’s sexual desire is relatively weak, and sexual excitement is related to the menstrual cycle (generally, sexual desire is higher around the ovulation period and in the early stages of menstruation). There are a few women who have weak or even no sexual desire before marriage, and their sexual desire gradually increases during sexual intercourse after marriage.

(2) Male sexual impulse appears faster, reaches orgasm quickly, and sexual desire subsides quickly. Generally speaking, a normal man takes about 2 to 6 minutes (or 3 to 15 minutes) from the beginning of sexual intercourse to ejaculation; women's sexual impulse occurs slowly, and it usually takes 10 to 30 minutes (or 5 to 15 minutes) to reach orgasm. , the climax lasts longer and the sexual desire subsides slowly.

(3) Male sexual desire tends to be concentrated in the sexual organs, and the desire for sexual intercourse is very high; female sexual desire is more extensive and complex, including talking, laughing, tenderness, caressing, etc. Only after reaching a certain level of excitement can there be a requirement for sexual intercourse. The most ideal sex life is for both parties to reach climax at the same time or for the woman to reach climax first and then the man to ejaculate. After the woman reaches climax, it does not affect the continuation of sexual intercourse; and, unlike men, women can reproduce the orgasm in a short period of time.

2. Frequency of sexual intercourse

How much is the right amount of sexual intercourse is a difficult question to answer. The strength of sexual desire varies from person to person, and even for the same person, it is affected by many factors such as age, physique, personality, occupation, climate, environment, emotions, etc. Therefore, the number of sexual intercourse cannot be prescribed mechanically, but must be adjusted appropriately according to the specific circumstances of both parties. During the newlywed period, sexual desire is stronger and sexual intercourse is more frequent. In the first few months after marriage, it is usually 2 to 3 times a week. As you age, it will gradually decrease to once every 1 to 2 weeks. People in poor health need less frequent exercise. Husbands and wives often have more frequent sexual intercourse when they meet again after a long absence. This is human nature, but it should also be moderated.

Whether the sexual life is moderate or not is different for every couple. This is related to each couple's work and their own situation.

High-quality sex life can play a very good role in integrating the relationship between husband and wife, so what kind of sex is the best mode?

The best sex mode

1. 6-8 am, the best time for sex

According to the traditional view, the night adds to the charm and should be the perfect time. But sexologists have different views on this. They believe that the ideal time is at the beginning of the day, that is, between 6 and 8 am. When women wake up in the morning, the concentration of sex hormones in their bodies reaches the highest value, which can bring them the greatest pleasure. Secondly, it is a first-class means to enrich energy and mobilize emotions.

2. Make sounds with the highest quality

A state court in the United States once accepted a bizarre case in which a young woman was fined for shouting during sex. This really wronged her. Swedish scientists believe that the quality of the sound produced is more than twice that of the "silent" person and should not be punished. Studies have shown that shouting out loud can stimulate sexual impulses far more than any visual image.

3. The ideal sexual duration is about 10 minutes

According to research, one or two minutes is too short to satisfy the sexual requirements of both parties, especially women. Most couples believe that 3-7 minutes of sex is "acceptable"; 10 minutes is the ideal state; if it exceeds 13 minutes, even if it is "long", they will easily become exhausted and lose interest.

So, who has the final say whether it’s good or not? Sex and love both originate in the brain. American neurologist Daniel Amen has been engaged in related research for 25 years. In his view, the brain is the "commander-in-chief of sex": we feel sex because of specific neurochemical systems in the brain that produce these emotions in us. In this issue, this edition will reveal to readers: how love and sexual thoughts are generated in the brain, and how they "wander" in our minds.

4. See and smell, sexy receiver

When choosing a partner, men focus on those of the opposite sex who are beautiful, voluptuous, and can inspire fantasy; while women are attracted to men who appear to be good fathers and husbands, even if they look ordinary and dress simply.

Daniel Amen explained that a woman’s criteria for choosing a mate are not as “recognizable” as her appearance. In comparison, men's standards are simpler and easier to achieve. When you see the person you like, the neurotransmitter dopamine in the male brain quickly "goes into action," igniting areas responsible for pleasure, action, and reward. Men will feel their heart beat faster and have an indescribable urge.

The reason why men like to look at beautiful women is not because they are superficial, but because the area of ​​the brain responsible for vision is too "strong". A survey by Emory University in the United States found that when men watch pornographic content for 30 minutes, the above-mentioned areas will completely "light up." "For example, when beautiful girls ask men for help, they will behave like idiots," Daniel Amen said.

The easiest way to overcome the "tyranny" of the visual nerve is to mobilize logical thinking. Men may wish to ask themselves: Why should I do this and what are the benefits? Such questions can draw attention away from brief visual impulses.