When two people fall in love and get married, the initial marriage is always as curious and fresh as when they fell in love. It's all about you and me, and we do everything together. However, after a long time, men and women feel very bored looking at each other, and they lose the sweetness before. At this time, the minds of men and women are very meticulous. If there is any slight problem, they will turn it into a corner and then start to quarrel. At this time, the only thing that can remain unchanged is sex. Men perceive love through sex, and women perceive sex through love. Therefore, if both parties cannot have a harmonious sex life, the intimate relationship will be threatened at any time. John Gray, an internationally renowned expert on interpersonal relationships and emotional issues, points out that women are not born sexually repressed, and men are not born sexual masters. In sexual life, both parties should strive to find "sex skills" that are suitable for both men and women to create a harmonious and intimate relationship.

In the book "Men Enter the Bedroom to the Left, Women Enter the Bedroom to the Right", John Gray summarized 4 "sex packages" for couples to choose from, including "regular sex" with regular family side dishes, once a month 's classic "Sex Feast," as well as "Quick Sex" and the vegetarian "Cuddle." Among the four packages, quick sex and regular sex are more suitable for men; sex feast and hug are more focused on meeting the needs of women.

Regular sex is indispensable

Sex life plays an important role in an intimate relationship. Without sex life, the content of love will naturally decrease. Therefore, couples must have regular sex at least once a week. It's like a home-cooked dish, regular but with a warm feel.

In the process of sexual life, every aspect should be taken care of, such as sufficient foreplay, the husband should observe the wife's reaction and guide her to climax; and the wife should cooperate with every action of the husband.

Try quick sex once in a while

A man’s sexual needs often come and go quickly. It would be cruel to ask him to match his lover’s rhythm every time. Therefore, when the husband "wants" but the wife is not "sexy", you can allow him to have quick sex. As long as 3-5 minutes, men can be completely released, which can weaken men's rejection of foreplay and take the initiative in sexual intercourse. But after quick sex, the husband must tell his wife emotionally: "Thank you very much for everything you have done for me. Next time, I will definitely let you enjoy a wonderful orgasm."

Have a "sex feast" once a month

This must have three elements: a strange environment, a romantic atmosphere, and sufficient teasing. John Gray pointed out that familiar environments and processes can make people inert. Occasionally changing the location and rhythm of sexual life is extremely stimulating and can play a catalytic role in intimate relationships. Therefore, couples may wish to book a room in a hotel or travel to the countryside every one or two months, put aside their children, work, and bills, and completely indulge in sweet sex. If you are not used to spending the night outside, you can also do it at home, but your husband must make sufficient preparations. For example, first take your wife to a high-end restaurant for dinner and buy her a bouquet of flowers; when you get home, fill the bathtub with water and sprinkle some flower petals, and the two of you can take a bath together.

Give your wife a warm hug

Women are very sensitive to male hugging and even see it as a way to release their sexual feelings. Therefore, husbands should always give their wives an emotional hug. Moreover, the hug should be strong, affectionate, and long-lasting, which will make the wife feel needed.

Professor Tao Lin, director of the Preparatory Committee of the Shenzhen Branch of the Chinese Sexology Society and director of the Shenzhen Family Planning Service Center, said in an interview with a reporter from "Life Times" that the four sex packages are an idealized state and must be copied completely. In real life, it may be a little difficult. Because some people's sex rhythm is fast and they can't slow down no matter what; some people have to take it slow and they can't climax if it's fast.

Tao Lin pointed out that for those men with poor self-control ability, they must first learn to grasp the rhythm and try to control themselves not to "run" ahead of their wives. If you try to extend the foreplay time and reduce the number of twitches per minute, if you used to have 80 twitches per minute, you can try to reduce it to less than 50 times. The frequency of twitching decreases, which naturally prolongs the sex process. "Couples can improve on the existing methods according to the actual situation to make their sex life more innovative."