In modern society, extramarital affairs are very common. The reason why extramarital affairs occur must be that there is something wrong with the relationship between husband and wife. But psychologists and marriage counselors believe that a harmonious sex life can resist extramarital affairs. What's going on?

Disharmony in sexual life is the primary conflict between couples

There are many problems between couples, but marriage experts and psychologists rank sex life problems at the top of other couples' lives. According to a survey by relevant personnel, there are many factors that affect disharmony in family life, but the incoordination of sexual life between husband and wife accounts for 50% of the many factors causing conflicts between husband and wife. Disharmony in sexual life causes couples to suffer day and night. In mild cases, they complain to each other, and in severe cases, they file for divorce. Some people also have extramarital affairs because of this.

Sexual desire is an individual’s desire for sexual needs

According to foreign reports, men have the strongest sexual desire between the ages of 17 and 18, and women around the age of 35. The situation in our country shows that there are great individual differences in sexual desire in adulthood. Some are gradually weakening, some are gradually increasing, and some are basically unchanged. Sexual desire and sexual performance are both distinct and related. Although some people have sexual desire, their sexual ability is low. Adult men generally have sexual intercourse 3-6 times a month, and the duration of each sexual intercourse is usually 7-20 minutes. The number of sexual intercourses and the duration of sexual intercourse can reflect the strength of sexual desire and sexual ability. Some people have low sexual ability, and have sexual psychology imbalance and sexual disharmony in their married life, but they usually bury it in their psychology. After a certain period of time, the psychological depression formed will further aggravate the disharmony in their sexual life, and further Increase distress. Due to the influence of traditional concepts and feudal ideas, a large proportion of people in my country are dissatisfied with their sexual life as adults. When sexual life is not satisfied, some people will develop outwards. Therefore, how to adjust their sexual psychology, sexual function and their sexual life physiologically and psychologically is one of the major issues related to the physical and mental health of couples in adulthood.

Be mentally prepared for sex in adulthood

Compared with the newlywed period, the degree of sexual intercourse between couples in adulthood has declined. Due to the heavier burden, the intensity of the requirements for sexual life has also weakened, and emotional readjustment is required, among which the adjustment of sexual life is a must. Indispensable. It is mainly reflected in the psychological preparation of couples for sexual life. Both husband and wife should understand under what circumstances it is easy to arouse each other's sexual desire and make them willing to have sex, and how to make each other "synchronized" with themselves.

Under what circumstances are sexual demands likely to arise

Generally, it is easier to have sexual requirements under the following circumstances: When you are in a happy mood. When something exciting happens at home or at work, or when both parties feel particularly amiable and lovely for some reason, sexual demands are often easily generated. When the body is healthy, a healthy body and emotions are easily uplifting. The weather is warm and moderate, and weather that is too cold or too hot will affect people's sexual requirements. When the environment is quiet. The noisy environment around the house will destroy people's mood, cause irritability, and thus affect their sexual life. When receiving external stimulation. For example, certain shots, certain pictures in movies and TV, and certain plots in novels can easily cause sexual impulses in couples.

Couples must learn to send sexual signals correctly

After one spouse has a sexual desire, how does one pass it on to the spouse so that the spouse's behavior is "synchronized" with one's own? This is the so-called "body love", which is the issue of how to send out sexual signals. Sexual signals are generally sent through verbal actions and non-verbal actions. Verbal actions are divided into two types: direct and indirect: direct verbal actions are relatively clear, while indirect verbal actions include language and hints, related topics, etc., such as having some conversations about sex with your spouse to stimulate the other party's desire. Sexual desire; or urging the other person to go to bed early as a hint. Non-verbal actions are mostly intimate actions such as kissing, hugging, and touching.

In short, only when the sexual life of a couple is harmonious, the relationship will be more stable. Just as the famous brand lelo said: a perfect sex life can make the relationship more beautiful. Therefore, making sex life more harmonious is one way to resist extramarital affairs.