For most couples, a perfect sexual life is undoubtedly their emotional pursuit. However, the reality is often cruel. Many couples have sexual disharmony. Why is this? In fact, sexual disharmony is caused by conflicts. If it is adjusted, there will be a difficult-to-solve crisis in the relationship and sexual life of the couple. So, what are the reasons for disharmony in the sex life of couples? What should a couple do if their sex life is not harmonious?

What are the reasons for disharmony in sexual life?

1. Excessive fatigue or physical weakness.

At this time, men often have no desire for sex and just want to take a quick rest or recuperate.

2. The relationship between husband and wife is not good or the sexual life is not harmonious.

This situation will cause aversion to sexual life and lead to loss of sexual desire. This requires adjustment and improvement.

3. Have incorrect views on sexual life.

Some people believe that abstinence can maintain physical health; some believe that sterilization surgery will inevitably affect sexual function; some people always feel muscle soreness after having sex, thinking that it is caused by excessive sexual life. These thoughts will cause people to have fear and disgust towards sexual life, and their sexual desire will gradually weaken. In fact, as long as sex is not excessive, it is not only harmless to the body, but also beneficial to physical and mental health. As for male sterilization surgery, as long as the surgery is successful, it will not affect your sex life and everything will be business as usual.

4. I am afraid that the woman will get pregnant, so I have some scruples about sexual intercourse.

There are many contraceptive methods at present, and they are all effective when used properly. If you are worried, you can consult your doctor. It is completely unnecessary to be afraid of the woman getting pregnant after taking scientific contraceptive measures.

5. Suffering from illness, weak constitution and pain.

In this case, men's sexual desire is not strong. Only when the disease is cured and the body recovers can sexual desire be restored.

Is the couple having sexual disharmony? Never blame each other again

1. Husbands and wives complain about each other and make their sexual life unharmonious

In a national sexual civilization survey report, there were two data reflecting the level of sexual harmony between couples. One is that 30% of couples have been angry, quarreled, forced or even injured due to disharmony in their sexual life; second, In urban divorce cases, 25% to 33% are caused by this kind of disharmony.

In addition, the so-called sexual disharmony between couples is not entirely due to physiological problems, poor health and other subjective reasons, but also due to the feudal ideological prejudice of both sexes. Of course, there are still some couples who have sexual disharmony because they cannot control the details of sex well, which casts a shadow over their sex life.

2. Don’t criticize the other person if your sex is not satisfactory

When your husband takes the initiative to approach you and want to be intimate with you, you should say some encouraging words appropriately to let the temperature of your sex heat up little by little, instead of blaming each other sideways. If the wife blames the husband intentionally or unintentionally, for the husband, it means "the wife does not accept or has no love, which means she does not even love her husband" and so on. Husbands with fragile sexual psychology often find it difficult to accept it, so they become troubled and lose their sexual interest.

3. Both husband and wife should do more self-criticism

When there is a conflict between husband and wife, no matter who is right or wrong, they must learn to be tolerant as much as possible, not blame each other at will, and admit their faults in an appropriate and practical way. Then it will be easier to ease the cold war.

4. The husband and wife find the same friend to talk to

Let this friend analyze the reasons for the cold war between the two, and then tell the couple respectively the solutions, so that the problem can be solved as soon as possible.

5. Find a place where the two often meet and have a quiet chat

In this familiar environment, the couple is more able to open up and talk about the ins and outs of the conflict. It will be much better if they just talk about it.

6. Use children to convey ideas

It will be easier if you have children. During the Cold War, couples don’t want to talk first because it would be embarrassing. At this time, the children can express each other’s concerns. For example, the mother asks the child to tell the father where the washed shirts are placed. ; The father asked the child to tell the mother that the newly bought clothes are placed in the XX cabinet, so that the cold war between the husband and wife will end quickly.