Instances of men cheating are common. When you find out that your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you, in addition to anger, you also have doubts in your heart: Why did he cheat on me? What is the psychology and purpose of men cheating? The following are the confessions of some men, explaining the reasons for their affair. You might as well check whether your relationship with him has the same crisis, so as to nip it in the bud.

She is immersed in work - MARTIN is 48 years old

"My girlfriend is an excellent painter, and I admire her talent very much. However, I found that she was too involved in work and often ignored me. I couldn't help feeling lonely, so I talked to my ex-girlfriend. She treated me with every possible care. , and prepared a sumptuous dinner for me. After watching the game, we took a bath together and then had a passionate night in bed.”

Loneliness and alcohol - STEVEN aged 20

"Amin and I started dating in high school. She was very beautiful, enthusiastic and humorous. Later, when she was going to study in another city, we promised to be loyal to each other and agreed to get together during the holidays."

"However, one night I was drunk and had a relationship with a female classmate. The next morning, I felt very guilty. Later I told A Ming about it. Since then, our relationship has changed, and I can no longer I won’t hide it from the one I love.”

Revenge - TIM38 years old

"It's not my fault, it was her who cheated on me first. I went to Europe with my boss on business, and the two of us were very romantic, and I had to take care of three children after work. When she came back, she actually showed off her power to me."

"I decided to take revenge and hooked up with a middle-aged woman next door. We only went to bed once, but slowly, I began to flirt with women more often. I now understand that it was due to revenge."

She likes me - Zhang Ming, 35 years old

"Afen and I have been living together for five years, and then we started having an affair. I didn't do it on purpose. One day, a woman accidentally fell into my arms, and I immediately supported her. She was tall, youthful and enthusiastic. , and fell in love with me at first sight. This relationship lasted for two months, during which I had to lie to Ah Fen constantly, which was really painful."

Unable to meet her requirements - Ada is 19 years old

"I dated my girlfriend for three weeks before we had sex. However, it was obvious that she was very disappointed. I could not arouse her passion, and she had a dissatisfied look on her face. A few days later, She even said to me: 'That person's job is much bigger than yours', which hit my self-esteem hard."

"A few weeks later, I was hanging out with a girl at a party because I wanted to know if I could satisfy a woman. The girl complimented me on my skills, which helped me regain a lot of confidence."

"I cheated on my girlfriend because I finally had the chance to get the girl of my dreams, Liza (she used to date my best friend). Not only is she hot, she's also wild. I've always wanted her, but she's not interested in me at all. ”

"One day, I met her in the store. I expressed my feelings to her, and she accepted me. I was really overjoyed because I didn't expect that my dream would finally come true."

She suspected that I was fooling around - Ah Wei is 31 years old

"I've been married for ten years. Every time I go out to perform with my band, my wife thinks I'm going to be messing around. I'm tired of her accusations. One night, I decided that I couldn't change her mind anyway, so I'd better just do it. Really get to know an affair ”

"That night, I had sex with the singer in the band."

"We flirted in a playful way and both wanted to be loved. Later, I started an affair with her because she was so confident and loving and made me feel comfortable and happy.

Uncoordinated sexual life - Amai is 32 years old

"Meiling and I have known each other for about six months, and our relationship seems to be good. However, we lack common topics, and now I know that is not a good sign." "Later, I had a relationship with a colleague in the company, and I also I don’t know why it happened. This lightning contact made me realize that Meiling could not satisfy my real sexual needs.

Driven by curiosity——ANDY19 years old

"My girlfriend and I are going on a business trip. Before that, I had been loyal to her, but I wanted to know if I was still popular with women."

“I met a beautiful girl at a party, and although I was out of practice, I still knew how to strike up a conversation with her, and we had a great weekend together. When my girlfriend came back, a friend tipped her off. She and I had a cold war for a month, then got back together for a while, and finally broke up. It was me who destroyed this relationship.”

Men's cheating is due to some psychological factors. The following are the most common psychology of men who cheat. Women should also learn more about it to see if there are any hidden dangers between you, so as to prevent them before they happen and make your relationship closer.

1. Compensation Psychology

Some people take the initiative to find a third party or are willing to accept compensation from a third party because their husband and wife are separated (the wife is pregnant) and are unbearably lonely, or because one of the husband and wife has a physical defect and cannot be physically satisfied, or the relationship between the husband and wife is not harmonious. Thus forming an extramarital affair. Sex life is not the entire content of a couple's life. As long as the couple strengthens the connection, communicates more emotionally, and misses each other in their hearts, their lives will still be fulfilling, and there is no need to compensate.

2. The psychology of debt

Some lovers fail to get married in the end, and both parties get married separately, or one party gets married and the other party does not want to get married but still has a crush on the other party. When one party has difficulties in life or the relationship between the couple is not harmonious, the other party feels that they still owe the other party love and actively invests in the old lover. Embracing old feelings revives, resulting in extramarital affairs. Lovers may not always get married. Since both parties have already started a family, or the other party has already started a family, they should face the reality and cherish the relationship between the couple. When the other party has difficulties in life or the relationship between the couple is not harmonious, using extramarital affairs to repay the other party's affection is not so much It would be better to say that it is harming the other party than to help the other party, which is not helpful.

3. Greed for money

Because some people are greedy for the other person's money and regardless of their own personality, they take the initiative to commit themselves to the other person in exchange for a few coins, thus forming an extramarital affair.

4. Picture Psychology

Some people covet the beauty of the woman or the strong body of the man and take the initiative to express love, which leads to extramarital affairs. Appearance beauty will naturally disappear with age. Only inner beauty is eternal. Like fine wine, it becomes more mellow as time goes by. Therefore, the most important thing is to be good at discovering the shining points of your spouse and show your true feelings. In this way, beauty will naturally appear in the eyes of your lover.

5. The psychology of repaying gratitude

Some people get help from each other because they have difficulties in life, or because their husbands are away for a long time and the family has been taken care of by the other party for a long time, and they have no way to repay it, so they have to offer their bodies, which leads to extramarital affairs. In fact, since the other party sincerely helps you and does not expect anything in return from you, you can just remember the other party's kindness to you, so why bother dedicating yourself to it? If this affects the other party's family, it is not a good intention but a bad thing.

6. Revenge mentality

Some couples have an extramarital affair because one party has an affair and refuses to listen to advice. In order to get revenge on the other party, the other party actively seeks a third party. Since you know that it is wrong for the other party to have an affair, why would you go looking for a third party? Isn't it just knowing that you are wrong and making a mistake? Moreover, marriage is free, and divorce is also free. If the relationship has truly broken down, and there is no possibility of reconciliation, you might as well divorce and forget about it. It is better to reconcile and break up. It is better to be friends than to take revenge on the other party.

7. Curiosity

Some couples live an ordinary life and feel it is boring, but the hero and heroine of the film and television are in love with their lover, making waves, living a life of flavor, freedom and ease. I also want to experience this kind of life, so in this curious way, Driven by the heart, extramarital affairs occur.

8. Hedonic Psychology

Some people believe that one should enjoy themselves while they are still alive, so they have promiscuous interactions with members of the opposite sex, leading to extramarital affairs.

9. The psychology of happiness

Some men and women help and support each other at work. As time goes by, both parties have a good impression and are in love with each other, resulting in extramarital affairs.

10. The psychology of mutual benefit

Some people have extramarital affairs because of work constraints and mutual benefit.

In fact, more than half of men have cheated on their partners behind their backs. If this happened to you, you should ask yourself: "What is your gut telling you? Are you feeling pain?" After that, you should ask her directly and listen to her explanation - was it a one-night stand, or was he Already in love with someone else? Only after you understand the facts can you decide whether your relationship will survive.