Sex and love are a perfect unity. It is not just the act of sexual intercourse. The real purpose of sex is to express and pursue the happy state of inner love. So what should women pay attention to on their first night? Let’s find out together below.

For couples, sexual life is a necessary guarantee for trust and emotional sublimation. This guarantee is mostly established from the first sexual life. This shows how important the first sex between husband and wife is. Therefore, it is very necessary for first-time married men and women to master the essentials of their first sexual life, otherwise it may affect the intimacy between husband and wife in the future.

During the first sexual intercourse, due to the shyness and nervousness of both parties, especially the woman, she will encounter many problems. As a man, you should be considerate, caring and loving towards your woman. Be gentle with your movements and don't focus on yourself. The woman should overcome her nervousness and fear and cooperate happily with the man. There will be some pain when the hymen ruptures, and you can hold your breath downward to relieve the pain. Generally speaking, there will be a small amount of bleeding when the hymen is ruptured, but in a few women, the hymen is very tough and does not rupture after sexual intercourse. There are also a few women whose hymen is already very fragile. Excessive exercise before marriage may cause the hymen to rupture. Therefore, virginity cannot be judged based on whether the hymen is intact or whether the hymen bleeds during sexual intercourse. During sex, both husband and wife should pay attention to cleanliness and hygiene.

Wash the vulva and external genitals before and after sex.

Things a woman needs to know for the first time

Regarding the issue of women's first night pain, everyone has different opinions. In addition, this issue has been highlighted in clinical cases. I will clarify my views on this issue here and hope to answer your questions.

First of all, let’s give an example of an interesting phenomenon: It is generally accepted that the hymen is not red during the first night. In other words, many people know that the hymen is just a thin film, which can easily rupture during strenuous exercise, and in many cases it happens unknowingly. occurred in. In other words, facts have proven that when this membrane ruptures, it actually does not cause pain, at least not obvious pain. Otherwise, how could women not notice it? But why do people accept the idea that there will be no bleeding during the first night, but don’t accept the idea that hymen rupture won’t hurt?

The reason is very simple. What people say from word of mouth is that "the first time hurts." Literature, film and television and other media also promote the pain of the first night, and associate this feeling with the innocence of girls so closely that it is in people's minds. Synesthesia has been generated in the ceremony: that is, having sex for the first time means distortion. Pain is something that women must overcome in this ceremony. Women are destined to suffer and suffer, so women should at least be cautious about their first night in order to avoid pain. If this man doesn't want you anymore, your pain will be in vain! It was all paid for in vain!

In this case, no woman thinks that the first night will not hurt, and the more innocent the woman will be, the more painful it will be. This shows how much you love your partner and how much you have dedicated yourself to him with a noble spirit of sacrifice. Because women cannot 100% preserve the phenomenon of first night redness, they can only use first night pain as evidence. This unconsciously strengthens the concept that "the feeling in the vagina during first sexual intercourse must be pain", which has almost become a collective subconscious, leaving no doubt for both men and women. Men will therefore cherish women's devotion, and women will therefore demand men's loyalty.

Such a concept must have its rationality, as it is a classic product of male-dominated cultural hegemony. Too many women are afraid of the action of inserting the penis into the vagina because of this so-called pain. They are very scared even thinking about it, and they are unable to have a normal sexual life as a couple for many years after marriage. The resulting public opinion about infertility, divorce tragedy, and guilt for their husbands have caused long-term psychological pressure on them, and they will suffer from a series of psychological and/or physical problems, such as anxiety, depression, gynecological inflammation, and self-inflammation. Immune diseases, skin diseases, etc.

Therefore, in order to eliminate this misconception, women's sexual rights must be fundamentally liberated, so that they can enjoy the same rights as men and respect each other with men. In this way, women will not feel shortchanged, sacrificed, or bullied for having consensual sex. At the same time, the explanation of the hymen must be in place in sex education.

The hymen is a natural physiological barrier of the vagina, which can play a certain role in protecting the vaginal environment of young girls. However, this protective effect is not important because rupture does not lead to an increased chance of vaginal infection. Therefore, the hymen is actually just a trace left over from the process of genetic evolution. Many people are born with very shallow traces of the hymen. With growth and development, this membrane is slowly stretched open, and many holes appear. Some holes merge with each other to form large holes, allowing menstrual blood to pass through. When the holes are large, the hymen is basically invisible.

Finally, let me explain why most women say "the first time hurts." In its natural state, the front and back walls of the vagina fit very well. When a foreign object is inserted into the vagina for the first time, the vaginal mucosa is stimulated as never before. Our brain must recognize this new touch. If we recognize this new feeling as touch, the feeling of being stretched, If there is a feeling of fullness, it will not cause us to have an emotional reaction of fear; if there is a preset in our minds that the first night will be painful, then this new feeling will naturally be recognized as pain, which will make us Fear, because everyone is afraid of pain; if we have positive expectations about sex, then we will recognize this feeling as strong sexual stimulation and sexual feeling, which will make us sexually excited. This is something that can be explained with common knowledge of psychology, and is not mysterious.

Things a man should pay attention to for the first time

The most important thing is that during the whole process, it is best to avoid having relatives and friends make trouble at the wedding, because this is your most beautiful and most anticipated moment, and you should cherish it.

Because newlyweds often lack sexual knowledge and are new to each other, they are prone to nervousness, shyness, and fear. It is normal for them to have a poor sex life. So how to do it?

1. Do more romantic things before sexual intercourse, especially do more foreplay. Don't be like a hungry wolf, biting on sight.

2. Since this is your first time in ML, don’t be too nervous and rush into it, but take your time.

3. This is the time when women feel the most pain, and it is the best time for men to show comfort and concern. Be sure to do it slowly and don't move too much.

4. Pay attention to her expression. If she is in pain, don't force it as it will cast a shadow on her.

5. Bring TT, pay attention to hygiene, and wash it afterwards to be healthier.