Ms. Mei called: I had a one-night stand, from beginning to end, a full 22 hours, 22 hours of tenderness. When saying goodbye, he sent me to the car and we kissed goodbye reluctantly. Everything seemed so beautiful. I understand and understand the meaning and rules of one-night stands. Precisely because there are no ambiguous emotional entanglements in a one-night stand, I indulged my curiosity that day and allowed myself to play a game with a stranger. I didn’t want any unnecessary trouble in my peaceful and normal life.

After one night, he was not as entangled as I imagined, but completely disappeared from my life (we left each other's phone numbers so he could contact me), as if he had never appeared. I don't feel sad.

As a woman, I hope to get not only physical satisfaction from a one-night stand, but also emotional needs. So, I wonder if all the friendship that night was fake? Is there no emotional factor in a one-night stand? I'm confused about the meaning of a one-night stand, maybe because I don't know what I want to get from a one-night stand.

Expert answer: It seems that you are a curious woman who wants to try everything. But when your experiment was going on, your mentality changed, and you thought you were in love. In fact, your feeling can only occur in women. On the male side, he is likely to regard the one-night stand with you as an ordinary encounter, an accidental cheating. He will not even admit that it is cheating. At most, he will Think of this as a romantic play session. So, when you feel lost, he may already be looking for the next encounter.

For you, one-night stands are dangerous. Because you are a woman with a family, it is impossible for emotional and physical infidelity to not affect you - this is a dangerous game. When you think that this moment of lust is the romance of love, you are already standing on the edge of the cliff. Although you are lucky enough to meet a "polite" gentleman, his "politeness" makes you feel that this night of desire has a little flavor of love. In fact, this gentle trap is even more terrifying.

Of course, it is also a subjective assumption to say that a one-night stand will never breed lasting love. But judging from your description, you haven't encountered it yet. Your relationship with him seems to have nothing to do with love. In an open society, one-night stands are simple and convenient, requiring no responsibility, no burden, and no need for too much effort, but it is not suitable for everyone. What's more, there is something that is always in charge of us, and its name is "society". Personal ethics and morals are restricted by social ethics and morals. The public's social ethics will become moral beliefs, and beliefs will affect and virtually control everyone. When your body is questioning, it is actually your morality that is questioning - the behavior of "one-night stand" is not in line with the moral position after all.