From a psychological point of view, women are more emotional and think about things based on their feelings. Moreover, their senses are sharper than men's, especially their sense of touch. Therefore, women are more accustomed to using tactile feelings instead of verbal expressions. When people are dating their girlfriend, they should not only use their ears to listen to what she says, but also use their eyes to see what she does. Only in this way can we gain a more accurate insight into her true intentions.

This phenomenon of physical contact can also be extended to everyone’s interactions with others. Body language experts have found that everyone has a psychological "alertness", that is, a person's "sphere of influence" feeling. Each person is self-centered and expands around to form an egg-shaped psychological defense space. Once others invade, it will cause him or her to be nervous, vigilant, and resist. The stranger the people are, the farther away they are from each other and the greater the distance between their bodies. On the contrary, the psychological defense space distance will gradually shrink. For example, between normal couples, the relationship between parents and children is the closest, so the psychological distance between them can be reduced to zero, that is, close physical contact occurs.

A woman who loves too much is also a disease

The women meet every Monday morning in a conference room at the Dornu Hospital in Buenos Aires. Desserts and yerba mate were placed on the table, and in a soothing atmosphere, they began to talk about their "toxic love." A young woman said she stayed up all night and called her boyfriend all night long. Another person said that she spent a long time investigating her partner's online friends, studying hundreds of photos and convinced that she would find clues of his partner's misconduct.

However, they are tired of this endless doubt in the emotional world, so they gather here, hoping to learn to love calmly through therapy. This party is called "Women Who Love Too Much", and they came in response to the free advertisement for the treatment of "obsessive-compulsive love disorder" that Dornu Hospital had posted online.

The hospital's advertisement is deeply rooted in people's hearts: since when did we lose our expectation of love? Why do we believe that good men are boring? Why can’t we let go of those who have hurt us? Why are we so afraid of being abandoned? Why do we still not have the courage to leave when the relationship between two people has become torture? A series of questions undoubtedly speak to the voices of many women who are deeply involved in emotional entanglements and resonate with them.

Excessive love does not mean deep love; controlling the other person at all times will only bring harm. Psychologist Melina Buglesser describes "women who love too much" like this: Their behaviors are usually very similar, such as spending a lot of time waiting for the other party to send text messages; or refreshing social network pages over and over again to see if the other party is there. Visit; try every means to confirm whether the other party has received the message you sent. More extreme behaviors include suddenly appearing at the other person's workplace, checking who the other person is with and doing, and even endlessly pestering the other person's family and friends. Women who experience the above symptoms can be included in the treatment targets.

What causes them to be so sick? Bugleser believes that the main reason is negative influence from the family. For example, missing family members, bad habits of parents, domestic violence or communication difficulties will have adverse effects on women in their early growth stages. When they grow up, their love often has an element of compulsion. In the process of getting along with your significant other, you will always be worried about being abandoned and full of uneasiness. They will use various methods to attract each other's attention. If they don't get a response, they will become even more nervous. In this vicious cycle, they will eventually lose themselves.

Bugleser said that healthy love is interaction between both parties. When women choose a partner, they not only choose the person they need, but also make sure that the other person also needs them. This is a complex process that requires psychological counseling and counseling. The treatment provided by Dornu Hospital is precisely to help women understand and learn this process.

In addition, the treatment of women's "obsessive-compulsive disorder in love" at Dornu Hospital also includes helping women learn to distinguish between what is love and what is not love.

Bugleser said that many women have been influenced by fairy tales and legends since childhood, and are often immersed in prince and princess-style love fantasies, and the love and hatred content of some stories has a negative impact on them, making them mistakenly believe that they can bear The pain is proportional to the love received. In this regard, therapy will help them rebuild their outlook on relationships, simplify relationships, allow them to understand their own needs and preferences, and reject extreme behaviors to avoid paying a high price for the wrong relationship.