People of different ages will encounter different sexual problems. Even the same problem will manifest itself differently depending on age. No two people are ever exactly alike, just like there are no two identical leaves in the world. Regarding sexual issues, it can be said that everyone has their own secrets. For example, a newly married man encountered this distress: After getting married, my wife has always had objections to me, saying that I always think about things in bed all day long, and that the words I said before getting married about how to love her were all false. Maybe I ask for sex more often, but I don’t understand why she is so disgusted with me. Can’t she also get pleasure from sex? ”

Other men who have been married for more than ten or decades have expressed the opposite distress: In the past few years, my wife has had great opinions on me, saying that I rarely do that kind of thing. It proves that I don't love her. There is nothing wrong with me physically and I can have sex with her every week, but she doesn't seem to be satisfied. I wonder if she has hypersexuality. In fact, it is a problem of the sexual desire gap between men and women, which is also mixed with some social and cultural factors. From a physiological aspect, male sexual vitality tends to increase in the late adolescence, coupled with the novelty of early marriage. With long-term accumulation of sexual energy, men usually show strong sexual desire at this time. Relatively speaking, women’s sexual desire is relatively weak at this time. In addition, the shyness about sexual intercourse has not been relieved, so they are not interested in sex. This gap in sexual desire can easily cause women to misunderstand men. They think that men don’t actually love them, but only use them as a tool to vent their sexual desires, so they have sexual requirements for men. produce disgust

Although these complaints from women are based on misunderstandings, they are not entirely unreasonable. Young men often cannot distinguish physical needs from emotional needs. After sexual intercourse, they feel that both physical needs and emotional needs have been met. In other words, while they are making sexual efforts, they also think that they are expressing love to each other. They feel particularly aggrieved when women accuse them of not having love. This situation will change as men mature. Adult men are less and less willing to prove their feelings through sexual life, and are more willing to achieve their goals through different ways of communication. It can be seen that after young men are criticized by women in their sexual life, the important thing is not to change their sexual life, but to pay attention to strengthening their emotional expression methods so that women can fully appreciate their love. With this premise, women will readily accept sexual lifestyles that they were unwilling to accept before.

So, will the situation change as we grow older? Physiologically speaking, this situation reverses as you enter middle age. It turns out that men are enthusiastic and women are indifferent. After middle age, it is likely that women will be enthusiastic and men are indifferent. There is a folk saying in our country, "Thirty is like a wolf, forty is like a tiger." The implicit meaning is that the sexual desire of middle-aged women will become particularly strong. Although this saying is inevitably exaggerated, But it is indeed in line with the modern sexology point of view. Experts in sexual medicine have concluded based on extensive surveys that a woman's sexual desire tends to peak in her late thirties and early forties. Men who have entered this age group are dwarfed by comparison. On the one hand, they are not as vigorous as they used to be. On the other hand, their sexual desire is suppressed due to the pressure of career and life, so it is somewhat difficult to cope with the sexual requirements of their wives. This is not the case for women. After they have experienced a long period of ordinary family life, from the collision of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea and pots and pans, the romantic color of love has been greatly weakened, and they have spiritual constraints and concerns about their sexual life. It also disappears completely, so you can pursue your sex life naked. However, this kind of straightforward and bold behavior makes men find it difficult to accept. At this time, men are no longer satisfied with getting the pleasure of life from sex alone. In addition, if their physical strength is insufficient, they will adopt an evasive attitude towards their wives. For example, someone went to live in the office on the pretext of being busy at work, and his wife dragged him home. People who didn't know the inside story thought there was some conflict between the couple, but they didn't know that it was actually caused by uncoordinated sexual life.

It's not too difficult to solve. As a husband, when you are young, you should pay attention to using non-sexual methods to express your feelings. When you enter middle age, you should strive to use more sexual contact to enhance the relationship between the two. As a wife, after marriage, you should pay attention to transforming romantic emotions into practical and caring love as soon as possible, but after entering middle age, you should try your best to help your husband share the mental pressure caused by career and family responsibilities. For couples who have differences but do not have conflicts, the above points can perfectly coordinate their relationship. However, for couples where conflicts have occurred and are more serious, these methods are not very effective. It is best for them to sit down and sit down. Come down and negotiate a solution together, or seek outside help.

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