Nowadays, it is an era that pays attention to the pursuit of "equality between men and women." People say that women’s sexual physiological reactions are the same as men’s, with roughly four stages: excitement, climax, climax and end. Orgasm is a systemic reaction and activity caused by extreme excitement of the central nervous system, including tightening of muscles throughout the body, rhythmic contraction of vaginal muscles, and even involuntary tightening of pelvic muscles; heartbeats up to 180 beats per minute; systolic blood pressure and diastolic pressure The blood pressure increases by 20 to 50 mm Hg respectively; the whole body sweats, etc. At the moment of high pleasure, there will be an ecstasy like being thrown into a room or feeling soaring in the clouds, which is really wonderful.

Since sexual physiological reactions are the same for men and women, some people believe that women should not always be "passive" during the entire process of sexual life. In order to achieve harmony and perfection in sexual life, "equality between men and women" should be promoted. This view is actually a biased formalism and does not conform to the characteristics of male and female reproductive organs. Therefore, the one-sided pursuit of "equality between men and women" in sexual life may not be able to achieve satisfactory results. The reasons are as follows:

Male-dominated sexual methods make it easier to arouse the "sexual" interest of two people

As we all know, men's muscles are tough and strong, and their reproductive organs are characterized by their firmness and attack. If men lose this characteristic, the sexual process cannot be completed. In contrast, women's muscles are soft and their reproductive organs are loose and easy to accommodate. Psychologically speaking, men are more rough, competitive, and aggressive in character, while women are more delicate, tolerant, and able to accept whatever comes their way. Starting from these characteristics, men should also be on the offensive and women on the defensive. In the sexual life of couples, male aggression and female defense are commonly used sexual methods. In addition to being influenced by traditional culture, its physiological and psychological factors cannot be ignored.

The satisfaction of sexual life lies in how the husband plays his role

Since men play a leading role in sexual life, then, on the premise that the wife can accept the other party happily and cooperate well, the husband's behavior is related to whether both people can reach orgasm. Practical questions. At this time, the husband's sexual knowledge and level of accomplishment will affect the entire process of sexual life. For example, if the wife's sexual excitement stage has not yet arrived, the husband should be patient and understand that sex is not just "coitus", but a blend of "spirit and body". At the beginning, the husband can use hugging, kissing, caressing, touching and gentle words to stimulate the woman's sexual desire and passion, rather than violent actions to drive the woman to a higher level of sexual excitement.

As we all know, men’s sexual behavior is more active, proactive, and aggressive than women’s. The sexual life of many young and middle-aged people is often as powerful as a "hungry tiger pounces on food". But once you reach orgasm, you feel like a "deflated rubber ball", feeling tired and sleepy, and want to sleep. But female sexual excitement comes and goes slowly. When two people reach orgasm at the same time, the wife needs a slower time for the sexual excitement to subside and still needs her husband's caress. If when the wife is still in excitement, the husband falls asleep without even a gentle word, or even snores loudly, the wife will feel dissatisfied, not only physically uncomfortable, but also psychologically dissatisfied. Causes the wife's sexual frigidity and sexual confrontation. Therefore, when two people achieve sexual satisfaction at the same time, they should not fall asleep immediately, but should hug each other and say sweet words. This will not only promote mutual care and consideration between husband and wife, promote mutual trust and happiness, but also contribute to physical and mental health. Adjust physiological and psychological functions to optimal conditions.

Women’s active participation will better arouse men’s sexual excitement

A harmonious sexual life between husband and wife is not only a means for human reproduction, but also an important part of promoting the relationship between husband and wife and creating a harmonious and happy life. It is of great benefit to both husband and wife. But to achieve tacit understanding and harmony in sexual life, it requires both the husband's initiative and the wife's cooperation, because sexual life is something that can only be accomplished by the cooperation of the husband and wife. Both men and women have responsibilities and obligations to be the protagonists of "sexual intercourse". They have the right to enjoy sexual pleasure and the obligation to allow the other party to obtain sexual pleasure. Therefore, the woman should change the traditional passive thinking of "simply accepting" and should not take everything under her husband's orders. Just imagine, how can a wife who is completely in a passive situation experience sexual joy? Therefore, the best attitude is: while men take the initiative to "attack", women should actively cooperate and actively participate.

Once you have the desire for sexual desire, you should take the initiative to send sexual signals to the man. It is straightforward to express in direct language, but in real life, many wives are willing to send sexual signals in indirect ways, such as intentionally wearing thin and translucent pajamas; or half-lying on the bed shyly and affectionately ; Or decorate the house very warmly, so that the lights are soft and the house is full of fragrance, no less than the scene of the wedding night... The highest level of sexual life is the combination of "spirit and flesh", so the wife's The combination of a positive and happy mood and proactive actions also plays a guiding role, enabling the man to master the best "skills" and rhythms, and enrich the content and style of sexual life.

On the other hand, from the perspective of women, although they are "passive" in form, their functional roles are indiscriminate. First, when a man takes the initiative but is not in good spirits (sexual weakness or even impotence), the woman's timely initiative will induce and mobilize the man's sexual desire. From her care and consideration for her husband, the husband will feel the charm of his wife, thus deepening the relationship between the couple. Emotions can easily lead two people to reach orgasm at the same time. Second, when a woman encounters something unpleasant or can't keep up her energy due to physical discomfort, she can naturally explain to her husband the reason why she can't have sex, so as to gain his understanding and inspire his love. Doing so will play a certain positive role in making the sex life between husband and wife more harmonious and happy in the future.

Originally, men and women have different physiological structures, which leads to different physiological reactions. Sex is about harmony and enjoyment between both parties. If we talk about "equality between men and women", it is just superfluous. As long as both men and women can enjoy sex, that is the so-called equality!

The secret to "making love more and more" between couples

The first tip: Exploring neglected sexual opportunities

Your time is often taken up by work, children, and entertainment, which seems to be very insufficient. But sex experts point out. Couples' lack of uninterrupted non-sleep time in bed together may be part of the problem, primarily because couples are not using their time adequately and appropriately.

Step 1: If you have ten minutes available, have quick sex. It may sound true

It's a rush, but having sex quickly isn't necessarily a bad thing. In fact, many couples appreciate the stimulation brought by rapid sex, which can also create a feeling of being a secret between the two of them, especially before relatives and friends come over for dinner.

Step 2: As night falls, take out your diary and pen and write down the longer sexual activities you will have this week. Be consistent every week.

The second trick: Improve stroking skills

After several years of marriage, touching your partner frequently can strengthen the relationship more than having sex regularly. Experts say: "In addition to making love, many couples rarely touch each other affectionately, and they may feel awkward about it." Improve touching skills. It removes all obstacles to good lovemaking.

Step 1: Seize the opportunity. Make a habit of touching your partner, such as holding his hand while watching a movie. Run your finger up and down his upper arm while watching TV together. As well as giving kisses from time to time.

Step 2: Let him hug you. Many men say they like to touch their wives. They touch themselves more than the other person does, but they continue to send the “don’t come near me” message. If a deep kiss in the morning stains your lipstick, so be it. Putting on your makeup again is nothing compared to the unpleasant feelings you'll get from not wanting to have contact with your husband.

The third tip: Learn to express your wishes

Many men behave like ascetic monks in bed. Trying very hard to please you by covering every inch of your skin with sincere power. If you want him to stay in a certain position. Some instructions should be given to him.

Step 1: Decide on a sensitive area that you would like your husband to spend more time on, and then say something like: "I really like the way you touch me.", "Don't stop." If you feel uncomfortable saying such statements suddenly. Shame, you might as well continue it a few times until it feels natural. (If you are disgusted by those words, you can express your wishes by moaning.)

Step 2: When your husband meets your requirements, you must let him know. If he does something wrong, maintain a meaningful silence.

The fourth tip: Expand the space for making love

If your bed is the only place you two have sex, you may be missing out on the high levels of sexual pleasure you can get from having sex elsewhere in your home.

Steps -: Start in the kitchen and consider using all the delicious food in the cupboards and refrigerators. This may lead you to places you have never been before.

Step 2: Repeat in every room, once you've experienced what it's like to have sex in a rocking chair in your bedroom.

You can enter a deeper sexual realm.

The fifth tip: Never miss the fleeting opportunity

Many people get excited at home, but on the way to the bedroom, they are always distracted by many things and soon lose their enthusiasm.

Experts point out that if you want to enjoy more and better sexual pleasure, you should act immediately when you are aroused.

Step —: When you feel aroused, don’t be distracted by other things. focus. Don't let the excitement slip away.

Step 2: Do whatever it takes to pick a place in your home and start immediately.