Whether you are a man or a woman, with or without a partner, you will all have sexual fantasies, but the degree of sexual fantasies is different. Although it is a normal sexual physiological manifestation to fantasize about having sex with the person of the opposite sex you like and gain sexual pleasure, it can be harmful to the body if it is excessive.

What exactly is a sexual fantasy

Usually, the content of sexual fantasies is mainly about pursuing sexual activities for pleasure, but there are also a few people who fantasize about being raped or sexually abused. From a psychoanalytic perspective, there are two explanations: the subconscious aggressive instinct is combined with sexual fantasies. If it is directed at a sexual object, it constitutes a fantasy of an abusive object; if it is directed at oneself, it constitutes a fantasy of being sexually abused. Under the influence of traditional sexual repression, women often feel ashamed or guilty about sexual behavior.

The reverse formation of sexual fantasies

If you imagine that you are actively and willing to pursue sex in your sexual fantasies, it will cause you to feel guilty or anxious. At this time, through the "reverse formation" psychological defense mechanism, the fantasy becomes a "rape" behavior imposed on you. , you can allow yourself to enjoy sexual pleasure and find excuses for yourself.

Excessive sexual fantasy or illness

Sexual fantasies are a common psychological phenomenon that are usually harmless or even beneficial. It can be used as a "psychological aphrodisiac" for sexual excitement, and it is also a psychological defense mechanism. It can replace unrealized sexual pursuits and obtain partial psychological satisfaction. However, if excessive indulgence in daydreaming of sexual fantasies affects normal life, Even if the fantasy is too bizarre and you firmly believe it to be true, it is a pathological fantasy or delusion, which may be a manifestation of schizophrenia or other mental illnesses, in which case you should seek help from a psychiatrist.

Female sexual fantasies during sex

As for sexual fantasies during sex, some people have put forward such a view. They believe that before the sexual tension is released, men’s facial muscles are very tight and may even spasm, making their expressions ugly, so women should not Be willing to open your eyes and see. They would rather close their eyes and imagine that the person who is integrating with them is a handsome man instead of their husband.

Sexual fantasy is a psychological aphrodisiac

Isn’t this a bit ridiculous? I think few people can accept it, at least no one dares to admit it openly in front of their husbands. You can say that this view is absurd, and whether you dare to admit it is another matter, but you cannot deny the fact that according to surveys by sexology experts, a considerable number of women have had sexual intercourse. Imaginations like this can increase your sexual excitement. Once they understand this fact, many men will feel embarrassed and think that it is their own image and abilities that cause women to have sexual fantasies. And many women themselves feel uneasy and guilty about this sexual fantasy, so they deliberately suppress it. In fact, both of these ideas are wrong.

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