The world is ushering in an era of high separation rates among couples. In the United States, at least 3.5 million people are involuntarily separated from their spouses in two places; in Germany, couples living apart in different places account for 12% of married people; in China, "month-end couples" and "quarter-end couples" in cities such as Beijing and Shanghai There are more and more "couples"... In order to help couples living apart in two places better maintain their relationship and sex life, we interviewed Li Huili, a marriage and love expert and national second-level psychological counselor, and based on the latest foreign experience, we summarized the characteristics of separated couples "Four dos and four don'ts".

Emotional contact:

Learn to communicate skillfully. Communication is the most critical factor in keeping a marriage relationship working. The more candid both parties are in communicating, the easier and more effective the communication will be. In fact, living apart in two places will also improve people's communication skills.

Stay connected in various ways every day. With the advancement of technology, living in two places is much easier today than it was 30 years ago. The young couple should contact each other every day as much as possible, preferably via video. Occasionally, you can also write a long letter to express your feelings from afar. Knowing that someone is thinking about you makes a big difference.

Don't be unrealistic. When two places are separated, you cannot always have unrealistic fantasies about your partner. It is normal to be jealous of other sweet partners who are tired of being together. In this case, don't be angry or keep it in your heart. You can communicate with your partner.

Don't worry all the time. We can't always consider the negative effects of "living in two places". It actually has positive aspects, such as having more time and space, being alone, and getting along with friends.

Sex life:

Meet regularly to have sex. Sex is a major issue for separated couples. If the couple can get together every one or two months, they can adopt the method of "saving in small amounts and taking in whole amounts". After the sexual energy is properly accumulated, they can have high-quality sex once or twice. At this time, the intensity of sexual pleasure often obtained by two people will be better than usual.

Learn to masturbate. For couples who don't see each other for half a year or more, they can first satisfy their sexual desires by practicing masturbation, and they can also try sexual devices.

Do not actively accept sexual stimulation. On days when reunion is not possible, sexual stimulation should be appropriately reduced. Because sight and hearing can significantly increase people's sexual tension in a short period of time, men are particularly sensitive, which reduces the chance of sexual impulse and keeps the sexual desire level at a moderate level.

Don't complain about your sex life. Separation is a challenge to the sexual needs of both parties. Don't complain about each other. Frequent phone calls and text messages between husband and wife, and recalling the good times between the two of you can also satisfy your sexual psychology.