For most men, sex is a kind of enjoyment, the beginning of passion and the end of happiness. However, there are some things that make men unhappy, lack passion, and even bored during sex, because there is a lack of skills in sex. Let’s talk about it below. Learn about caressing techniques during sex:

How to have the most harmonious sex life

Ancient Fangzhongshu said: During sexual intercourse between husband and wife, if the woman is not happy because she has not been moved by lust, the vulva will not be moved and will expand, and the vaginal fluid will not overflow and lubricate; if the man has no sexual requirements, the penis will not be erect. Not stiff.

Sexual desire and arousal are often out of sync between men and women. Generally speaking, a man's sexual impulse often appears quickly due to visual stimulation; a woman's sexual impulse is relatively slow, but she is more sensitive to tactile stimulation. Of course, the opposite situation to the above can also occur, that is, the woman has sexual requirements but the man does not. Therefore, all of the above situations require a playful and flirting phase.

There is a brilliant explanation of this in "Secrets of the Jade House": During sexual intercourse between husband and wife, if the woman is not happy because she is not passionate, the vulva will not be moved and will open up, and the vaginal fluid will not overflow and lubricate; if the man If there is no sexual requirement, the penis will not be erect or hard. These all hinder the smooth progress of sexual intercourse.

Before having sex, couples should first sense and stimulate each other's lust. If a man cannot feel the other person, the woman will not be happy and responsive; if the woman cannot move the other person, the man's penis will not be erect and he will not take the initiative. In this situation of "unrequited love", if the couple cannot be harmonious and harmonious, and their spirits cannot sense each other, and if they have hurried intercourse and act rudely, it will be more likely to arouse the other person's disgust, making it difficult to achieve good things.

If two people have the same desire and desire for sex before sex, the contraction and contraction of the vagina at this time can stimulate the man's penis, making it stronger and stronger; in turn, it promotes the overflow of vaginal fluid and the Lubricating, so that both parties can get sexual satisfaction.

In ancient Chinese sexual intercourse, great emphasis was placed on these actions and measures. It was believed that there must be a soothing, gentle and orderly phase of mutual caressing and play before sexual intercourse, so as to harmonize emotions and stimulate sexual desire. For example, in the medical slips "Integrating Yin and Yang" from the Mawangdui Han Tomb in Changsha, China, it was believed that pre-sexual intercourse is to achieve the "four symptoms of a man's penis" (i.e., the four symptoms of a man's penis being full, erect, firm, and prolonged and warm); for a woman to achieve The "five desires" (i.e., kissing, hugging, touching sensitive areas, sucking tongue and lips, and clinging and rocking slowly) can cause the woman to have flushed face and neck, breast enlargement, slight perspiration from the nose, lubricated mouth fluid, and vaginal discharge. Five sexual arousal symptoms: liquid, dry throat, swallowing saliva, etc.). If both parties reach the "four tones" and "five desires" respectively, then the qi and blood will be relaxed and the sexual desire will be satisfied during formal sexual intercourse.

How to maintain a harmonious sex life

1. Never let go of a fleeting opportunity

Many people get excited at home, but on the way to the bedroom, they are always distracted by many things and soon lose their enthusiasm. Experts point out that if you want to enjoy and have better sex, you should act immediately when you are sexually aroused.

Step-: When you feel aroused, don't be distracted by other things. focus. Don't let the excitement slip away.

Step two, do whatever it takes to choose a place in your home to start immediately.

2. Know how to bring up sexual fantasies at the right time

Now that you've strengthened your sexual communication skills, you're now ready to take your verbal skills to the next level: making special requests or sharing one-time fantasies. Step 1: Let your loved one know what you want, or write down what is on your mind in a note. Or try the bookmark technique: In a book about sexual fantasies, find a scene in it that you want to "replay", then mark that part with a red pen, and put the book next to his bed.

Step 2: Before setting a day for sex, inform him to read those chapters so that he has enough time to fully understand the content.

3. Understand the other party’s needs

There are actually many different variations of the way men like to caress, and they often seem ineffective on their own. In this section, he will show you what he is good at, which is very enlightening and stimulating.

Step 1: He usually feels self-conscious when you ask him to demonstrate how he likes to handle his penis. You might as well communicate with him first. The key is that he has to believe that you really want to see the demonstration so that he won't be too awkward.

Step 2: Pay close attention to which way he appears to be particularly excited. How fast does he pump? How firm is your grip? Is it just concentrated on the stem, or does it include the glans and testicles? The following parts are important: throughout the process of experiencing orgasm. Does he keep thrusting, or does he stop before he comes? The next time you have sex, you might as well use your observations to make sure he is satisfied.