Sometimes a couple fights or gets divorced because of one word. In fact, in the editor's opinion, communication between husband and wife is extremely important. Effective communication skills between husband and wife can help improve the relationship between husband and wife, and it is also the lubricant of marriage. Today, we will summarize two effective communication skills between husband and wife. You might as well learn them. Give it a try!

Don’t miss these two communication skills for couples

Tip No. 1: Remember to express love and gratitude in words.

Many people think that he should know my love for him! I think he should know. I'm grateful to him, he should be able to feel it! But the result was that he didn't feel any of these "shoulds" and didn't know them either. Husband and wife come from different family environments, and their views on some things have traces of their own families. Moreover, the differences between the sexes also make it impossible for us to think the same about each other all the time. So gratitude, or love, is not something anyone should feel. Instead, one party needs to express it clearly. Many times you may not understand it even if you express it, let alone if you don’t say it.

I know a couple. The husband is very interesting and loves to criticize his wife. My wife is particularly troubled by this. She feels like she has no advantages at all. Later we chatted together and I asked my husband: "Why do you always criticize her? Don't you like her?" The husband replied: "How could I not love her? She is the best woman I have ever seen in my life, but If I don't criticize her, how can she change her shortcomings and become better? Because I love her, I am stricter." This is really the deepest love and hatred! Because she loves her and wants her to be better, she criticizes her, but before her husband says it, does the wife think that her husband hates her? So you must speak it out, especially your love, your consideration for the other person's good, and your gratitude. If you don't speak it out, the other party will not know, and it may even lead to misunderstanding. What good will it do to the relationship? Say it, no matter what it is, as long as you say it and put it on the table, you may quarrel, but after you say it, there is nothing that cannot be solved? What's more, what about love and gratitude?

The second trick: Don’t take it for granted that he understands or understands

People have a tendency to have too high expectations for understanding, especially in intimate relationships. I have been in contact with a couple who have been married for ten years. The wife always said that I know what he thinks and I even know what he wants to say. But the husband is becoming more and more silent. Why? Because the husband has his own ideas, and the wife thinks she understands her husband. If the husband expresses his ideas, he and his wife will quarrel, so the husband chooses a more peaceful method - silence.

Don't default to telepathy, even if you actually feel it sometimes. Don’t default to assuming you have the same taste. The best way to please your partner is to make him or her feel like you don't know what he or she wants in advance. If his answer is inconsistent with what you expected, don't make a boring expression, as if he has everything under your control, and let the other person see your pleasure because you have shared another little secret.

Husbands and wives should pay attention to four details when living harmoniously

1. Don’t quarrel over trivial matters

This sentence is a truth that my wife and I have understood after years of quarreling. It's impossible for husband and wife not to quarrel, but don't get entangled over trivial matters. You have to explain it clearly. Some things don't need to be explained clearly. If you explain it clearly, the effect will be bad. At the same time, don’t ask the other party to admit their mistake, even if the truth is on your side. Because there is no winner in a quarrel between husband and wife, there is no need to tell the winner. Instead, you have to turn a blind eye; not only that, you also need to maintain it with your true feelings to maintain a real home.

2. Men should be honest with their wives

When men are socializing outside, they sometimes like to hide the truth and tell lies to deal with their wives. In fact, as long as work is not involved, there is no need to make up excuses such as "I am in a meeting" or "I am working overtime" to deceive my wife. Because it often takes ten sentences to cover up a lie, and mistakes are inevitable. How tiring.

3. Cleverly practice "strict wife control"

There is nothing wrong with proper "strict wife control". Families with "strict wife control" tend to last for a long time. At the same time, such men often understand in their hearts that their wives bear a lot of hardship and fatigue, so they are willing to be "strictly controlled by their wives." Many times, they refuse some non-important gatherings and instead go home from get off work to help their wives cook and stir-fry. , washing dishes and other household chores. Not only that, such men tend not to care about everything.

4. Don’t blame your wife for nagging

Generally speaking, women are more talkative and nagging only in front of the man they like. Maybe the man had a bad day at work or had a conflict with a colleague, but at this time his wife is like a tireless bird, chirping in front of you, making you feel even more irritable. But you must not blame her too much. You only need to say to her: Honey, I am very tired, let me rest alone for a while.