The wedding night is the most exciting moment in life. Many men will drink a lot of wine before the wedding, so that they become mentally unstable. In addition, they will be very excited to finally consummate the marriage with their beloved at night. This is It leads to excessive force during sex. Don’t do this again. The bride cannot bear the force of sex!

Newlyweds should know sexual skills

1. How to do foreplay

We all know that sexual intercourse is roughly divided into three parts: foreplay, focus, and afterplay. So, the quality of foreplay lays the foundation for our sex. Moreover, we also know that if the duration is too short, it is generally difficult for women to achieve orgasm. However, there are many ways for women to achieve orgasm. We can use our own hands to give her a private orgasm during foreplay. And when she was preparing for her second orgasm, he suddenly gave her a real shock and sent her to the clouds. If you time it well, you can enjoy the joy of simultaneous orgasm.

2. Use distraction to reduce sensitivity

3. Devote yourself wholeheartedly

Devoting ourselves wholeheartedly to sexual intercourse will always make us particularly sensitive to the feelings of every inch of our skin. Therefore, being distracted during sex can appropriately reduce the stimulation of the private parts. This way, you’ll last longer too.

Of course, you need to pay attention to your skills when you are distracted. You must not act while watching TV novels, otherwise your wife will run away in a rage and you will be in trouble; you must not think about other more exciting things, such as fantasizing about having sex at the same time. Looking at a certain sexy actress will only make you reach climax faster.

You can think about things at work or with friends, but don't get too involved. Pay attention to her feelings so you can adjust the frequency and intensity of your actions.

Using condoms during sex is an essential safety measure. Condoms not only have a contraceptive effect, they can also reduce irritation and make it last longer. We can use two or even more condoms during intercourse to reduce stimulation of the penis.

Although many men don't like to use condoms, from the perspective of safety and consideration for women, you'd better use them.

And, it’s even more important to use if you’ve always had a lack of staying power. Wearing two or three condoms can be more effective in preventing pregnancy, and it can also effectively reduce the friction on the private parts and extend the duration of your use.

Psychological interpretation of newlyweds

Female

Don't think that as long as the other person is passionate and you work hard to tease, the two of you can enjoy sex to your heart's content. In fact, a woman who likes to be kissed and caressed does not necessarily mean that she can enjoy sexual relations with each other. You may have never experienced how much pressure she exerted before unbuttoning.

Stress caused by fear and “anticipation” of sexual intercourse

"Sex is not beautiful at all, only uncomfortable." This is a topic often mentioned by many handkerchiefs when they talk about boudoir secrets. Due to the lack of sexual education, many people’s sexual knowledge comes from movies, TV, or novels. In those worlds, sex is beautiful, but in fact, not everyone’s experience is this way; therefore, when people spread word of mouth, they will say that sex is not only unromantic, but even painful.

Some people think that sexual intercourse is just a routine thing, or even just to satisfy men. With this concept, women will naturally feel fear and disgust when they want to go to bed with their sexual partners, and of course they will not have satisfactory and pleasurable sexual intercourse.

Another similar situation is aversion to sexual organs. In the manga "Reiko Shiratori", the heroine Reiko Shiratori has a first-class face and figure. She also has beautiful fantasies about falling in love and having sex. However, she feels that her sexual organs are extremely ugly, which is different from hers. A beautiful woman whose appearance is completely unworthy and therefore disillusioned with sex. Although the plot is funny, it vividly conveys the conflicting views of young women on sexual intercourse. This belief that sexual organs are ugly, just like the belief that sexual intercourse is painful, prevents many women from enjoying sex calmly.

Relief methods

Women's preconceived notions or stereotypes about sex can still cause psychological obstacles if they are deeply entrenched. At this time, the other half's consideration and understanding, as well as communication with both parties, become the key to solving the problem.

Inferiority about body shape and the pressure to unbutton

The first pressure women face before having sex is that they worry about being in bad shape, not being able to satisfy their sexual partners, and even destroying the original relationship. But in real life, there are not many people who can be as graceful as celebrities, so you must build confidence in your body and accept yourself.

Relief methods

For women's anxiety and pressure, men must give positive comments and encouragement. Men must understand that sex is not only about physical and sensual desires, but also about emotional communication. If you are not satisfied with your body shape, you can share your feelings with women and compare your feelings to relieve the pressure caused by appearance.

Male

You should use indirect stimulation methods. Don't touch or express directly first. You can wear sexy underwear and talk in an ear-biting way to make him distracted. Indirect sensual stimulation will be more attractive to him who has failed before. You You can also fully express your joy during sex. Seeing your satisfied expression and hearing your happy voice is the best treatment for him.

Doubt your sexual ability and worry about the pressure of being unsatisfied

According to the survey, Taiwanese men generally believe that it takes a long time to have an erection to satisfy a woman, and they also believe that a woman must have a strong reaction to show that he is "very capable and strong". Therefore, they subconsciously worry that the other person will have an affair due to dissatisfaction with desire. As a result, it became soft as I was doing it, and I couldn't get up no matter how much stimulation I exerted.

Relief methods

If you fail many times, you don't have to rush to help him recover. Both parties should take a break first to give him a chance to breathe; you can use other methods to express intimacy, let him know that you are really satisfied with your relationship, and rebuild his self-confidence.