On the issue of first night pain for women, everyone has different opinions. In addition, this issue has been highlighted in clinical cases. I would like to clarify my views on this issue here, and hope to answer your questions.

First of all, let’s give an example of an interesting phenomenon: Everyone has generally accepted that the first night is not red, which means that many people know that the hymen is just a thin film, which can easily rupture during strenuous exercise, and Many things happen unconsciously. In other words, facts have proven that when this membrane ruptures, it actually does not cause pain, at least not obvious pain. Otherwise, how could women not notice it? But why do people accept the idea that there will be no bleeding during the first night, but don’t accept the idea that hymen rupture won’t hurt?

The reason is very simple. People spread word of mouth that "the first time hurts." Literature, film and television and other media also promote the pain of the first night, and closely associate this feeling with the innocence of girls. , so that synesthesia has been generated in people's minds: that is, having sex for the first time means distortion, and pain is something that women must overcome in this ritual. Women are destined to suffer and suffer, so at the very least, women are afraid of pain. You should be careful about your first night. If this man doesn't want you anymore, your pain will be in vain! It was all paid for in vain!

In this case, no woman thinks that the first night will not hurt, and the more innocent a woman is, the more painful it will be. This shows how much you love your partner and how much you have dedicated yourself to him with a noble spirit of sacrifice. Own. Because women cannot 100% preserve the phenomenon of first night redness, they can only use first night pain as evidence. This unconsciously strengthens the concept that "the feeling in the vagina during first sexual intercourse must be pain", which has almost become a collective subconscious, leaving no doubt for both men and women. Men will therefore cherish women's devotion, and women will therefore demand men's loyalty.

Such a concept must have its rationality. It is a classic product of male-dominated cultural hegemony. Too many women are afraid of the action of inserting the penis into the vagina because of this so-called pain. They are very scared even thinking about it, and they are unable to have a normal sexual life as a couple for many years after marriage. The resulting public opinion about infertility, divorce tragedy, and guilt for their husbands have caused long-term psychological pressure on them, and they will suffer from a series of psychological and/or physical problems, such as anxiety, depression, gynecological inflammation, and self-inflammation. Immune diseases, skin diseases, etc.

Therefore, in order to eliminate this misconception, women's sexual rights must be fundamentally liberated, so that they can enjoy the same rights as men and respect each other with men. In this way, women will not feel shortchanged, sacrificed, or bullied for having consensual sex. At the same time, the explanation of the hymen must be in place in sex education.

The hymen is a natural physiological barrier of the vagina, which can play a certain role in protecting the vaginal environment of young girls. However, this protective effect is not important because rupture does not lead to an increased chance of vaginal infection. Therefore, the hymen is actually just a trace left over from the process of genetic evolution. Many people are born with very shallow traces of the hymen. With growth and development, this membrane is slowly stretched open, and many holes appear. Some holes merge with each other to form large holes, allowing menstrual blood to pass through. When the holes are large, the hymen is basically invisible.

Finally, let me explain why most women say "the first time hurts." In its natural state, the front and back walls of the vagina fit very well. When a foreign object is inserted into the vagina for the first time, the vaginal mucosa is stimulated as never before. Our brain must recognize this new touch. If we recognize this new feeling as touch, the feeling of being stretched, If there is a feeling of fullness, it will not cause us to have an emotional reaction of fear; if there is a preset in our minds that the first night will be painful, then this new feeling will naturally be recognized as pain, which will make us Fear, because everyone is afraid of pain; if we have positive expectations about sex, then we will recognize this feeling as strong sexual stimulation and sexual feeling, which will make us sexually excited. This is something that can be explained with common knowledge of psychology, and is not mysterious.

To sum up, no matter from a psychological or sociological perspective, the concept of pain during the first night is untenable. This is something that restricts women’s normal sexual life and enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Women should change their unscientific sexual concepts on the basis of scientific mastery of sexual knowledge, get rid of the fear of first night as soon as possible, and enjoy sexual happiness.