正方: Goodbyes are also friends

Whether we can be friends depends on the wishes of both parties

I just broke up with my boyfriend. We have known each other for more than 5 years, and we still have a strong relationship. OK Until a few weeks ago, he suddenly proposed breaking up, which was a big blow to me. I still don’t believe it all. He is now with another girl, and he calls me from time to time to tell me about him and his new girlfriend. He also said that they had a little dispute and felt very sad, so he wanted to talk to me. Of course I couldn't bear to see him like this, so I had to comfort him. I said that since we broke up, we were no longer friends, but he always said not to be too extreme in things and hoped that we could still be friends with me. So I deliberately wanted to forget him, which might give me one more chance to choose. So I think that after a breakup, neither party should force it, and don't think about whether we can still be friends. Because we have loved each other, the memories left behind will come to mind from time to time. Instead of always thinking about sad things, it is better to hide this love. , two people should not mention love again. So for lovers after breaking up, when they meet each other, look at each other, smile, and nod, this may also be a way of getting along with friends. (Text/nova)

Just think of her as an old friend

It has been two years since my girlfriend and I broke up. This is our mutual decision. I think of the time when we just broke up. It was a really embarrassing time. When I'm alone, I often think of the happy times when two people were together, but if I really think about the two people's future life together, there are too many intolerable things. But after all, the two people once loved each other and are in each other's heart. left indelible traces in his life. For a while, we had no contact, but I still cared about her in my heart, just like thinking of a friend I hadn't seen for many years, but with an added bitterness of frustration.

I remember that half a year after we broke up, we met on the street once. As we passed each other, both of us stopped at the same time. It was she who gave me the one I was so familiar with first. smile. We found a quiet place to sit down. I didn't expect that I would also feel a warm feeling at that time. When we talked about each other's mistakes in the past, we both felt a sense of relief. Maybe it was because we had broken away from that passionate love. Because of the invisible constraints that time brings to people. Because we understand each other, we can talk easily and accurately. I even wonder, if we had never fallen in love, would we have such harmonious moments now?

Someone once said to me that the result of love is either marriage, or one less friend and one more enemy. I used to think so too, but my breakup with her made me understand that as long as people treat others sincerely, , you can always find a proper and comfortable way to get along with each other. Isn't this the relationship between friends?

Since that conversation, we have resumed contact, occasionally making phone calls, having meals, and talking about each other’s concerns. She has become the only person of the opposite sex that I can openly talk to without considering the consequences. friend. And I think that today's diversified life has made people's emotional needs diversified. Just like when a person is troubled, he will not seek relief from everyone he knows. Therefore, after a lover breaks up, if there is no Those who have deliberately caused harm to each other should be able to become friends, and maybe even the most caring friends. After all, at a certain stage of their lives, they have walked hand in hand through a period of good times. (Text/Kewei)

Opposition: Meeting is worse than remembering

Being unable to be friends is the price paid for love

I have never been a person who can People who have the courage to face reality. After a year of hard work, we lost ourselves more and more and could not find the path to the world of two people. I finally decided to let go. After expelling everything related to him from my world, I numbly and calmly Spent some time. I remember that he said: "We can be friends." I shook my head firmly, I couldn't do it.

${FDPageBreak} During that time, I was like a drowning person, and his words "We can be friends" saved me. I acted like it was nothing and really became "friends" with him. I have "ulterior motives", so every contact I have is always awkward, carefully prepared but ended in a hurry. Gradually I got tired of making excuses, but I still paid attention to everything about him. I even hoped that he would get married early and find a girl who is better than me. I don’t know if my longing has finally lost to time and forgetfulness, or if we are interested in each other. We finally lost contact. His birthday is coming as scheduled, and I must wish him a happy birthday, but I don’t know when to contact him. I don’t know whether to say it in person or leave a message on a pager. I think: The distance between hearts cannot be shortened by any modern communication tool. We are destined not to be everlasting lovers, nor to be friends. But I know I will still miss him and our original sincerity. (Text/Xiao Wu)

From friends to lovers, this kind of relationship is difficult to reverse

We met three years ago. His innocent and cute smile once fascinated me. Maybe I matured too quickly in the past three years. His innocence and cuteness gradually lost appeal in my eyes and turned into childish fragility, simple-mindedness and lack of responsibility. I find more and more that when I confide my inner worries to him, I often comfort him not to worry about me; when I return to him exhausted, I have to cheer up and create joy and laughter for him; I hope that he will be independent and strong, but his attachment to me is sometimes like a child's dependence on his mother, which makes me question my "identity". Loving him was very tiring, and I was pushed to the bottom of pain. I started thinking about how to clean up the mess, but to no avail. And my mind began to replay our previous disputes and hurts over and over again, making me sink deeper and deeper into the quagmire of pain. "Let's break up" - a voice floated up, like a life-saving straw floating in front of you. I had no choice, and this choice freed me from endless suffering.

When I said these three words to him, his eyes were full of grievance and confusion. I didn’t dare to face it and left like a deserter.

We often see men and women in novels or movies and TV dramas saying coolly: "After breaking up, we can still be friends", with a tone of "business cannot be done without kindness". I also learned to say it once, but I couldn't speak from my heart. Because, from the acquaintance of friends to the love of lovers, it is like turning clear water into sweet and intoxicating wine. If one day the wine loses its proper mellowness, it will never be able to return to its original path and turn into water again. It will only be a sour liquid. The only way is to pour away all the sourness and wash the glass. I really hope he forgets about me, and I will try to do the same. He and I are like soldiers who crossed the border between Chu and Han, each heading in one direction and never going back. (Text/Hetian)

I doubt whether we can still be friends after a breakup

I am in love. Before this, I had no experience of falling in love, and of course I had no experience of breaking up. But I firmly believe that lovers who break up cannot be friends again.

I like chemistry very much. I think the process when a man and a woman meet and fall in love is very similar to a chemical reaction. I still remember that hydrogen gas would make a slight popping sound when ignited in pure oxygen. The rapid and intense sound is still fresh in my memory.

Men and women are like two chemical substances. There are only a few elements that are born with the qualities of pure hydrogen and pure oxygen. After all, the world is filled with more multi-compounds and even mixtures, and these main forces It is difficult for the ingredients to exist in pure form, so there are very few that can maintain the quality of pure hydrogen and pure oxygen after going through the tempering from birth to the beginning of love.

Whether you have pure quality or not, once you react, you are no longer the same person you were before the reaction. Of course, many times, the reaction will have an end. There are two results of this end. One is to generate a compound, that is, you are in me, and I am in you, a bit like a marriage. The other is It's like a chemical replacement, like a breakup between lovers. So far, I don't know of any two substances that have undergone a complete replacement reaction that can have any room for maneuver, only two substances that are unrelated. So, "We broke up, but we are still friends", let's talk about it, it's a lie to children, but maybe it's just my inexperienced feeling.

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