In real life, I often see or hear that some girls’ love process is very unsmooth, and even the love relationships end up with no results after repeated failures. Some have reached the stage of discussing marriage, which inexplicably leads to sharp contradictions and disagreements. Regarding these very common situations, I believe that the main reason for these unexpected problems is that girls make the following mistakes during the love process:

1. Always chattering in front of their boyfriends

"What did so-and-so's colleague wear today? What kind of cosmetics did so-and-so's colleague use recently? What did so-and-so's classmate buy at the party?" The girl's purpose of saying this is actually very simple. She hopes her boyfriend can understand, These things were gifts from their boyfriends. She also wanted a gift, so she enlightened her boyfriend and thought that he should understand such a simple and logical thing.

But the man just doesn’t understand. First, he doesn’t understand those brands at all. Second, he thinks she is too vain and trivial. Third, his self-esteem is hurt. He thinks she means: Why are you? You can't afford anything, why are you so poor? And his disgusted look irritated her, so she kept saying it, and the more it annoyed her, the more he said it, until they finally started to argue. The information received between men and women is not symmetrical. He has to wait for you to tell him: I am a woman. Women all like gifts. Give me some gifts and I will be very happy.

2. Being too obsessed with your boyfriend’s promise

In most cases, a man’s promise is just a perfunctory one, a perfunctory promise without any consideration before reality arrives. Most girls are very emotional, and many men are afraid to speak out their true thoughts because of women's emotions. In addition, most girls have another appearance, that is, they are unreasonable and ignore the rest. They could have made big things into trivial matters, but they can't. They often talk more and more. , the higher things go, the more complicated they become, and the conflicts become more acute, until they are irreconcilable and part ways, they regret it.

3. Ignore the differences between people

Difference is what makes us who we are and not someone else. It's not that your partner isn't good enough, he's just different from you. Unfortunately, once we start falling in love, we tend to see two people as one person. Beautiful verses such as "Exchange your heart for mine, and we will know and remember each other deeply" usually come from the fact that you are thinking about him hard, and you shed tears thinking about him, but he is fast asleep, and at the same time We are still grinding our teeth and drooling... In fact, our heart is not a USB flash drive, and the things recorded in it cannot be easily read by anyone, not even your lover.

4. The desire to dominate and possess is too strong

Women unconsciously become the weak ones in love relationships because the world has already set their gender as the weaker one, so They rely on asking and constantly demanding each other to make themselves stronger. Such conflicts often make men dizzy. They are not good at catching subtle emotional changes. Women's back-and-forth and fickleness will make men confused. Even the wisest men have headaches.

5. Only state officials are allowed to set fires and people are not allowed to light lamps

There is such a problem in intimate relationships. We will say anything because of the closeness and trust of the other party, and expose our true selves. There is nothing wrong with this in itself, but if you say and do a lot of things, It's aggressive and hurtful, so being your friend or boyfriend means being put forward with very high requirements: to be an all-powerful tolerant person. This is a very excessive request. You are basically saying: Because you love me, you have to endure everything, so you have to pay for me, so you can't fight back against me, otherwise you don't love me. This is the thinking logic of most women. They use love as a weapon to restrain and punish each other.

6. Breaking up at every turn

There is nothing wrong with quarrels between couples. In fact, these are just a process in which you understand each other and test each other's limits. Everyone will be in the process of fighting with each other. When people get along with each other, it is understandable that they unconsciously strive for that advantageous position and control. Moreover, every intimate relationship and life together are the result of two people's constant grinding and compromise. Therefore, what love needs most is tolerance and tolerance. You must not become incompatible if there is a conflict, or even break up easily.