The pursuit of sexual happiness is everyone’s right, but not everyone truly understands sex. Recently, many foreign sexology experts have summarized 9 "sexual things" they really want people to know. This knowledge can help people get rid of misunderstandings and enjoy sex better.

Seven key points that you should pay attention to when it comes to men and women

1. Sex is not perfect. Sex educator Dr. Logan said that people usually think that a good sexual partner should have the magic power to make sex life perfect. This idea is completely wrong. Sex is not perfect, it can only be successful or not. As long as it can bring men and women closer and bring pleasure to both parties, it is successful sex. "Perhaps a person cannot remember the most intense orgasm, but he will definitely remember the time when he was fully immersed in it and enjoyed it selflessly."

2. Passion can brew on its own. People often see scenes like this in movies and TV shows: partners have sex anytime and anywhere because their passion is uncontrollable. But real sex rarely works like this, and some people are always troubled by a lack of passion. Sex therapist Dr. Brandi Engler says desire doesn't come naturally and passion can be brewed on its own. For example, first do something that makes you feel excited and happy, or bring a little anger to possess the other person, which will make sex passionate.

3. You can have great sex without any sexual experience. No matter how little sexual experience you have, you can still enjoy the beauty of sex. Dr. Logan said that past sexual experiences are not important, what is important is how to treat your current sexual life. Don't always think about whether you are ready or have enough sexual skills. Follow your emotions and intuition, and sex will become more exciting.

4. You should think about your sex life when you are single. Dr. Rogan said that people usually think that only married people need to think about their sex life. In fact, when you are single, you should think about what kind of sex life you want in the future. You should also understand your desires and what can arouse you in advance.

5. Women’s vaginas are beautiful. Dr. Debbie said they had conducted a study in which some men were asked to answer where the most attractive part of their female partner's genitals was. The answers are different, but they all feel that their lover's genitals have a different kind of beauty.

6. Be sure to keep an open mind. Dr. Brandi said many men complain that their wives are not open enough when consulting a sex therapist. And women often hear their husbands or male partners muttering why they are not allowed to touch certain places. In fact, you should have an open attitude towards sex and a passion for active exploration.

7. Don’t be shy about trying new things. Dr. Brandi Engler says if you want to try something new in bed, go for it. For example, you can change to a new position, take the initiative during sex, or tell the other person your sexual fantasies. New attempts will keep sex fresh.

Don’t forget this before getting intimate as a couple

In fact, in real life, many couples or couples have had the experience of being accidentally interrupted during sex. This sudden shock is a serious negative stimulus for most people.

Especially for men, clinical cases of erectile dysfunction (ED) caused by this are not uncommon. For example, a couple of out-of-town graduate students from a scientific research institution moved into the dormitory of the unit. The normal life of a couple was stopped. Only local students could get together in the dormitory on weekends after they returned home. However, the man did not respond at all. . It turned out that he was always worried that the partition wall had ears or that a classmate would suddenly break in. It wasn't until they had a cabin of their own that his sexual function returned to normal. In addition, parents' attitude and behavior also play a big role. For example, some elderly people are influenced by traditional ideas and believe that sex is harmful to the body, and often persuade or hint their children to be moderate in their sexual lives. This practice becomes even more serious after they have children; some parents always treat their children as children. I often tuck them in at night to prevent them from catching cold. As everyone knows, the "children" would rather catch a cold than be frightened! It is even more common for parents to enter their children's rooms without knocking. Of course, after having children, this kind of interference is even more difficult to prevent, just like the scene in the comics. Therefore, it is best to lock the door during sex.