1. Don’t make random guesses. Don't assume you know everything about your partner's thoughts and feelings. Nine times out of ten, you'll be wrong. In a marital crisis, this scenario often occurs: ghosting suspicions make both people angry, difficult to communicate, and eventually the relationship breaks down.

Suggestion: Take a piece of paper and follow your intuition to complete the sentence "I guess my lover will think that I ____(to me)". Then, verify the accuracy of your guess with your loved one. As a result, you will find that many of your guesses are wrong. When you have questions, the best way is to ask him directly.

2. Don’t take what your lover does for you for granted. It's important to express gratitude to your loved ones and eliminate three major negative attitudes: a sense of entitlement, unrealistic expectations, and feigned forgetfulness.

Suggestion: Write down the big and small things your lover has done for you. Ask yourself if you have ever expressed gratitude for these things, and how. Keep expressing gratitude for a week and you will notice a change.

3. Don’t blame each other. "It's all your fault!" "You asked me to do it, and everything is a mess because of you!" Such complaints are easy to say. Words such as "What responsibility should I bear" are rarely uttered. Complaints actually express accusations and threats, and the other party will naturally retaliate in kind, leading to an escalation of the conflict.

Suggestion: Write down your complaints about your lover, then ask yourself, examine your responsibilities, and finally discuss and find a solution.

4. Don’t explain randomly. "Now I understand why you are so picky. You are just like your dad." This type of analysis that seems to understand the motivations of your lover's behavior will only lead to anger.

Suggestion: First understand the reason for your anger, learn to listen to your lover's point of view in an open and loving way, use non-verbal means such as eyes to let your lover know that you are listening carefully, and finally make constructive suggestions.

5. Don’t be afraid to say “no.” The practice of sacrificing one's own feelings to satisfy the other party may seem beneficial, but in fact it is a sign of insincerity. And it is difficult to have intimacy in a marriage that lacks sincerity.

Suggestion: Telling the truth can win the trust of your lover and deepen the relationship between husband and wife. Consider listing, in order of difficulty, all the things you are afraid to tell your loved one. After that, start with the simplest thing and try to tell your lover the truth.