1. Pursue the so-called "new" love method

Expression of views: "Conventional love is not complete. Real love should reflect broadness. Since I love him, I can give him anything."

"Love should give the loved one freedom, why wait until marriage."

"We're already in the 1990s, and it's boring to be sentimental. I want to be ahead of history," etc.

Under the psychological arrangement of chasing new trends, they quickly entered from first love to passionate love, and from marginal sexual behavior to central sexual behavior. The infatuated hugging, kissing, and caressing stimulate the strong excitement of sexual physiological instinct, making it difficult for reason to resist. A survey found that 44.67% of women had multiple sexual relations within six months, 50.33% of them were willing, and 80.33% thought it was a personal matter. According to my country's sexual ethics standards, the most intimate forms of sexual behavior between men and women during love can only be kissing, snuggling, and caressing. Sexual intercourse can only occur under the premise that the marital relationship is protected by law. The "fashionable" behavior of doing whatever you want is a sign of a lack of obligation.

2. Advocating various concepts of sexual freedom

In recent years, with the influx of Western cultural trends and the proliferation of sexual culture in our country, traditional sexual morality with deep cultural accumulation has been impacted. Some young people blindly admire Western concepts of sexual freedom and have a strong sense of self-consciousness about breaking through the so-called traditional sexual moral concepts. Some young women said: "We are facing the impact of the tide from all directions, and no matter how rational a woman is, she will feel confused." The moral music box has soothed the painful souls and bodies of some young people today, and their sexual concepts are inconsistent with their primitive instincts. An equal sign needs to be drawn.

Therefore, some young women think, "Now that they are mature, satisfying their own desires is a physiological need." Some say, "As long as you love yourself happily," others say, "There is nothing to be afraid of when you are pregnant. Sex is not sinful." "A woman is not considered a complete woman unless she has had an abortion." In the survey, 32.67% of women believed that "chastity is not very important," and 19.7% basically didn't care after sexual intercourse, and said, "That's it," etc. wait.

As soon as their ideas change, their behavior changes accordingly. When their love is still at a stage where they don't know how to control the boat of life rationally, they are burned by desire and have sexual intercourse that should not happen prematurely. Some have relationships with their boyfriends periodically, and although some have foreseen that they will never get married, their special relationship is still different. Distorted sexual concepts make distorted sexual behaviors out of control, resulting in "irresponsible consequences."

3. Satisfy the curiosity and exploration of "sex"

In today's civilized environment, sex has been hastily torn off the veil of concealment. For some young women, it is no longer that they are "discolored" when talking about sex and are ashamed to speak. Instead, talking about sexual desire is as easy and deformed as talking about appetite. However, due to the fact that many books and periodicals focus on the introduction of sexual organs and sexual life content, there is a lack of education on sexual psychology and sexual ethics. In addition, there are more and more sexual aesthetic scenes in movies and television, and there are often scenes of hugging and kissing on the road and street. Upon seeing this, this cultural atmosphere makes the vague awareness and curiosity about sex in girlhood more profound and practical. From the original ignorance of male sexual physiology, why the two sexes are full of sweetness when they are alone together, and what is pregnancy during sexual intercourse? What's going on, etc., have developed to the point where we are no longer satisfied with what is introduced in books and magazines, what we witness on film and television screens, on the streets, in the entertainment industry, and under the moonlight. Instead, we have to try and explore it ourselves, and even sometimes take the initiative during love. Curiously propose or do not decline the man's sexual request. The survey showed that 64.3% of women had sexual intercourse out of curiosity, only to regret it when they had to abort the pregnancy.

4. Thank your boyfriend for his love and affection for you

Although they also understand that women's virginity is very important and should never be sacrificed easily, but under the constant agitation of their boyfriend's admiration and love, they cannot hold on to their defense line. Some may be more attentive to them because their boyfriends have given them great help in their study and life, or they may have made great sacrifices because their boyfriends have solved many problems for their relatives. I often feel uneasy and feel grateful to repay my gratitude. When a boyfriend makes a sexual request, he is worried that refusing will hurt his heart, so he treats his boyfriend's sexual request as a reward for thanking him for his affection. This situation accounted for 18.3% in the survey.

5. Dispel your boyfriend’s worries about him

Some women feel that their boyfriend meets their requirements for mate selection and is a "beautiful man" in their dreams. They fall in love with him at first sight and have the feeling of "there is no such thing as a shop in this village", and they show initiative in the love process. However, for some men, the more proactive the woman is, the more he thinks too highly of himself. He may even feel worried about the woman and become overly cautious and noncommittal. In order to show their sincerity, some women hurriedly commit themselves to each other, and some, in order not to be abandoned by their men, also adopt this so-called "can tie a man's heart" and "lock the love with sex" which is immature and irrational. despicable behavior.

6. Upgrade love relationships

Many young women regard "sex" as a measure of love, believing that only sex can maintain and develop love. Some people believe that having sex before marriage is a programmed requirement of love, a necessary step, and if it happens in advance, it can affirm the relationship as early as possible, upgrade and deepen the love, and strengthen the cohesion of both parties. Under the arrangement of this sexual concept, they gave up all of themselves too quickly.

7. Maintain the engagement

A survey shows that 90.7% of young men and women who have premarital sex understand the relationship, but due to various reasons, such as lack of housing, financial difficulties, not working together, and not reaching the legal minimum age for marriage, etc. Cannot get married. In order to maintain this engagement relationship, both parties often have sex.

8. Understand your boyfriend’s sexual function

Research points out that this kind of motivation is more common among older unmarried people. They deeply feel that it is not easy to choose a spouse, and they also hope to be happy after marriage, so they have a stable attitude towards marriage. They are willing to have sexual intercourse with their satisfied lovers before marriage to understand each other's sexual function.

9. Resist environmental resistance

This is the reverse effect in the psychological development of love. Young men and women in love, after getting to know each other and deciding on a love relationship, always hope to get support and approval from people around them, especially parents, relatives and friends. But if they encounter unexpected and rude interference, are annoyed by others, strongly opposed by their parents, and obstructed by relatives and friends in every possible way, they will not only not terminate the relationship, but will become more enthusiastic and intimate, resisting these resistances with the fait accompli of "raw rice, cooked rice". Promote the victory of love.

10. In exchange for vanity

In today's society, with the continuous impact of the commodity economy, some young women have a strong sense of vanity, and have developed a strong comparison mentality and the pursuit of high consumption. Their "love" standards tend to be "a handsome man, a wealthy woman, a beautiful woman", and some people pursue sex. Enduring hardships, asking for beautiful women without hesitation to spend extravagantly. Therefore, in order to satisfy their own vanity, some women do not hesitate to exchange their energy for property and quickly give their female "first time". Others, under the temptation of money, take care of women and their "love" keeps changing, leading to " Pregnancy of unknown origin. The above are 10 misunderstandings about women’s psychological motivations for premarital sex. They reflect that young women have great differences and one-sidedness in sexual cognition, sexual awareness, sexual concepts, and views on love. They should attract the attention of education and society. Appreciate.