A marriage and love survey shows that the age of first love for mainland men and women is getting younger and younger; in marriage, the "7-year itch" has become the "5-year itch", with the highest proportion of crises occurring 3 to 5 years after marriage. . Research shows that 10% of couples cheat on each other at the same time.

The Social Survey Research Center of Peking University and Baihe.com Marriage and Love Research Institute released the "2015 Chinese People's Marriage and Love Situation Survey Report" on the 10th, using both online and physical survey methods, and obtained nearly 80,000 valid samples in two months.

The report shows that 51.09% of those surveyed had their first love before the age of 18, more than half. The younger you are, the earlier your first love is. Respondents born in the 1970s had their first love at the earliest age, with an average age of 19.19 years old. For those born in the 1995s, the age dropped to 12.67 years old.

Among those surveyed, those born in the 1980s had their first sexual intercourse at an average age of 22.17, and those born in the 1995s had an average age of 17.71.

According to the report's investigation, as the pace of modern life becomes faster and faster, the "seven-year itch" is also accelerating. Between 3 and 5 years after marriage, the happiness and marital satisfaction of both spouses are the lowest. Among the respondents who have been married for 3 to 5 years, 11.1% said they should not be with each other in the next life, and 8.9% decided not to get married at all in the next life.

The report shows that when there is a third party in a marriage, the proportion of men and women is equal, 20% each, and nearly 10% of cases involve cheating on both parties.

How to keep your marriage fresh?

In recent years, with the rapid development of economy and society, while people enjoy the great convenience brought by material abundance, they also have to face multiple choices and temptations in a bizarre world. The accelerated pace of life has a direct impact on people's happiness. The rising divorce rate is one of the manifestations of this. The traditional concept of a life-long couple has been severely impacted. Recently, a marriage and love survey showed that marital life has changed from the original "7-year itch" to the "5-year itch." The shelf life of marriage is shortened. On the one hand, affected by the overall social environment, the fast-paced and accelerated lifestyle makes people relatively impetuous, making it difficult to refuse temptation and increasing the chance of cheating. On the other hand, people's views on marriage and love are changing rapidly. A big change. Before entering the marriage, the husband and wife could not really understand each other. After the marriage, conflicts became increasingly apparent, and the happiness index was not high.

At the same time, the power of moral restraint gradually weakens, marriage becomes a child's play, and the proportion of couples cheating increases. The previous vows of each other and the firm commitment to marriage have all turned into smoke. It is really chilling. The farce of husband and wife cheating at the same time makes people laugh and cry. Faced with this situation, we have to reflect on why the shelf life of marriage has been shortened. Can we still believe in love?

The harmony and stability of married life is related to the harmony and stability of the entire society. Not to mention whether the survey data is credible, in view of the current phenomenon of increasing divorce and cheating rates, we must also increase the publicity of the correct view of marriage and love, and carefully choose spouses to enter marriage. , be mentally prepared and enhance your sense of responsibility. At the same time, encourage both spouses to cultivate their own interests and hobbies, maintain a certain sense of mystery, and keep the marriage fresh.

Opposition to "Nearly 10% of couples cheat at the same time"

Regarding cheating, it is a shameful thing for both men and women. If you come to investigate whether I have cheated on you, will I tell you the truth? Why should I tell you the truth? I said I cheated, maybe it was a joke, but you actually believed me and even released the investigation results! According to reports, this investigation adopted two methods: online and physical. However, online surveys are inherently unreliable and have very poor reliability. I believe many people would say "no" to physical investigations about cheating, and they are not very good at it. "have". Therefore, "10% of couples cheat at the same time" is probably "unfounded" and just to attract attention.

Let’s not talk about “10% of couples cheating on each other at the same time”. How likely is it to just say “husbands and wives cheat on each other at the same time”? Can a family where "both husband and wife cheat at the same time" still be a family? What to do with the children? What should the old man do? How do you take care of your family? How would you feel when a couple comes home after cheating on each other and sleeps in the same bed? Since couples are going to cheat at the same time, and now that divorce is free and popular, why not divorce to find freedom and happiness? This is a bit unnatural and unreasonable.

Don't say that others are making excuses or making excuses. What does "simultaneously" mean when "couples cheated on each other at the same time"? The same time - a certain year, month, day, hour, minute and second? Or is it the same period - 1990 to 1992 or 2010 to 2015? Or the same era? Of course, it is impossible to obtain accurate results when conducting investigations with such vague concepts. The survey on "couples cheating at the same time" is very vague. Is the conclusion that "10% of couples cheating on each other at the same time" nonsense?

Nowadays, many people and institutions have nothing to do but conduct random investigations and draw sensational conclusions. Many people may not be able to see the positive significance of such investigations and conclusions to society. Carrying out an investigation is time-consuming and labor-intensive, but it should be meaningful. For investigations like "couples cheating at the same time", the fewer the better, and the better if there is no investigation!