Should marriage be settled for the sake of children? When someone is about to get divorced, there are always people who advise them to separate for the sake of their children, and giving them a complete home is more important than anything else.

Marriage, for whom does it exist? Should we make do for the sake of our children?

It should be said that two people went from never knowing each other to knowing each other and falling in love, and then entered into marriage. With the crystallization of love, this marriage should be cherished. Moreover, every couple has a process of getting along with each other and requires tolerance and understanding. But if after rational thinking, you feel that love is gone, there will be no happiness for two people to be together again. Well, I think it's better to separate, even if we already have children.

First, a makeshift marriage ultimately hurts more than just three people. The essence of marriage is that two people love each other, and the essence of family is that relatives love each other. Family is the last trump card for a person to fight in the world, and it is the safest haven for a person's life. A marriage that exists in name only but seems to be incompatible with each other is not in line with human nature and is also immoral. During my research, I once met a child who seemed to be happy but was actually growing up in an unhappy family. Fortunately, the child is independent and sensible. She said that they have been in a cold war all year round, smiling in front of others and sneering in front of others. In fact, I understand their relationship, but it doesn't affect my study, so I just make do with it. When I get into college, if they don't want to leave, I have to let them leave. This child is lucky, but what about other children from makeshift marriages? Love is the foundation of marriage. How can children who grow up in a family without love be happy? In a family lacking joy and warmth, what kind of healthy character and mentality will children develop? What's more, a makeshift marriage not only hurts the couple, but also hurts the children, and may also affect the parents, brothers and sisters of both parties. A child not only needs the love of his parents, he also needs the happiness that his parents' mutual love brings to him. Our parents, brothers and sisters not only hope to see you have a complete family, but also hope to see you have a happy marriage and a happy, plain and warm smile.

Secondly, a makeshift marriage will not last long in the end. In the minds of modern people, they still long for a beautiful marriage. Life is short, and life and career are under unbearable pressure. Without the experience and feeling of a happy marriage, it is difficult to betray one's heart day after day. No one can last long. Furthermore, making do with things is actually accumulating and superimposing conflicts. This psychological burden will become heavier as life continues, and eventually everyone will have to let go of this burden. I don’t know how much precious time has been wasted in this process of making do. There was an aunt who had worked hard for her children for many years. They were strangers at home and had no care or consideration for each other. Over the years, her son has grown older, and she has become much older and sicker. Then he decisively walked out of the broken marriage, practiced swordplay and boxing every day, and worked hard to repair his ailing body day by day.

Thirdly, the happiness of a child is not necessarily related to the marriage of the parents. Modern education requires parents and children to grow together. For children, a scientific education is far more important than a complete family. Isn't "Happy Family" starring Song Dandan currently being broadcast on TV the best example? There are more and more examples like this in real life. Many people maintain friends after divorce, take good care of their children, and discuss education plans together. Not only do the two of them have a happy marriage to each other, but the child also has the love of two more stepfathers and stepmothers. Even if there is no such perfect thing, many people focus on educating their children and creating a good environment for their children to grow. I have a female friend who is married to a divorced man with a child. She gets along very well with the child. The child eventually went to college and then went to study in the United States. The child is very fond of his half-sister. Also very good. In short, what children need is real feelings rather than empty emotions.

Many times, adults always think that they suffer more because they are making sacrifices for the growth of their children, and sacrifices for children will always be rewarded. In fact, it is wrong. This is not only irresponsible for your own feelings, but also irresponsible for the growth of your children. If you want to consider your children's happiness, first of all, you must have a happy attitude. There is a saying that goes well, if you give someone a pot of water, you will have a bucket of water for yourself. This sentence is equally true for parents and children. If parents want their children to be strong and brave, they must first be determined and persistent. If parents want their children to be happy and motivated, they must first be optimistic and work hard.

In fact, in modern society, it is quite normal for various situations to occur in marriage. When problems and conflicts arise, you must solve them rationally and be tolerant of each other. Marriage is not a smooth road. If it's really irreversible, then leave.

It’s just that when you leave your original marriage, don’t give up the pursuit of happiness. Even if you lose confidence in marriage, you must believe that children in single-parent families will still have a happy life!

Dear friends, if one day you face such a situation, what choice will you make?

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