Letter from a reader:

I am a girl who grew up in an ordinary family. I am very conservative in my thinking and very traditional in my life. I got married last year, and my husband’s financial situation is better than mine. Before we got married, he took me to and from get off work every day, and waited outside my company for two or three hours almost every day. He was also very attentive when we went out to play, so Within a few months of knowing each other, we got our certificates. But less than a month after registration, these considerate things were gone forever.

And he is very careless about money. It seems that if he spends my money, he will spend more. When he spends his own money, he has to be careful. I don't understand what his intentions are. Not long after we got married, he gave me some pocket money. He wanted me to quit my job, support myself and have a child. Because I knew his attitude towards money, I didn't touch the money at first. Until one day, I found a reason to spend the pocket money he gave me. But something unexpected happened to me. He said that with this money, I could only buy food and clothing, but not do other things. He also said that now that I have a job and income, I should bear all my living expenses. When I can no longer afford it, he supports me, but he buys me whatever I want, but he can't give me the money. Said, as long as I can make money myself, he is just a rubbish if he spends money on me. And he also said that I don’t turn over the money I earn to him, that I am saving a small treasury by myself, just living with him on an AA basis, that he gave me this pocket money just to test my character, and now I want to spend the money he gave me, It means that I got married because of his money.

It is said that men are money rake and women are money boxes. I didn't ask him to hand over all the money he earned to me, so why did he ask me to hand over the money to him? I don’t have a stable job. I quit my job and go home to have a baby. I may not have my own income for two or three years. As far as the current situation is concerned, as long as I have no income, I can only live without any money. Apply to him and get what you need for every penny spent. When I met him, his job was actually a cover. Everything in his family was earned by his parents. Only when we lived together did I realize that he didn’t do any work at all, and his parents were not willing to let their precious son go. Because we don’t have any common property in our lives, if one day he doesn’t want me anymore, it will be equivalent to me leaving the house. Now I have given up my job and gone home to have a baby. He doesn’t give me any money, and he doesn’t allow me to save money on my own. We no longer have joint property, and no one can insure our marriage! What should I do if the day comes that he doesn't want me anymore?

I want to ask you, should I want such a marriage with such a man? Judging from the current situation, can I really quit my job and go home to give birth to his child? I firmly believe that I can support myself, but when I get married, should this man support me or not? Or does it have nothing to do with him because I can earn money and should support myself?

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Reply:

Money, money, money! The word "money" is in every sentence!

Many girls say: "We may not love money, but a man's attitude towards money can reflect his attitude as a person!"

That’s true! And the truth is this: People who are all about money are definitely not truly rich!

Nowadays, everyone talks about the "rich second generation" and "poor second generation" every day. But in fact, the rich second generation has the wealth of the rich second generation, and the poor second generation has the backbone of the poor second generation. But between the rich and the poor, there is a type of "little rich second generation" (referring to those whose parents have little money, feel very good about themselves, and always think they have the charm of a "little giant"), who are often the ones that cause the most headaches for women. kind. Although they are not rich, they are often arrogant. With a few taels of silver, they always feel that all the women in the world are after his money. They do not trust any woman, especially the woman who has spent his money, without exception. They will label her as a "money worshiper".

I remember once seeing a similar "wealthy man" on a program. We went on blind dates dozens of times, but he always got screwed. No matter what the girls asked, he always thought it was... Keep an eye on his wallet!

He often lamented that "true love is rare" and always believed that it was money that made him lose the opportunity to "love true love." However, the girls around him sneered at him and thought he was too hypocritical: "I can barely be considered a small middle-class person. You really think of yourself as a rich man!”

Often, women say: Men don’t need to be too rich, but they must not be without money. Just right, the best!

But in fact, this is not the case. Just right, of course. But there are many men who have just enough money but bad heads. A man is either extremely rich, or has no money at all, or has too much money to transcend other things, or too little money to make him sober. Otherwise, a man with a little money is the most difficult to deal with and the easiest to forget where he was born!

Of course, coming back to you, do you understand why the "second generation of slightly wealthy people" are the easiest to compete with over "money"?

That is because his assets are not large enough for him to reach the state of "ignoring money", but at the same time, because his other capital is insufficient, only this little money is enough for him to have money. Sense of presence.

Just like your husband, he has no job and no income. He is actually a very low-confidence man. But at the same time, he is doted on by his parents and comes from a good family, and he is arrogant. He is arrogant but not confident, so he refuses to give you cash and even defrauds you in every possible way. Firstly, he does not make money, and secondly, he I don't want you to have money, at least I can't let you have enough capital to leave him anytime and anywhere. In other words, although he himself does not have strong abilities, he still hopes to be a parent at home and live a life that he believes in. When you live with such a "second-generation slightly rich man", if a woman cannot coddle him and pamper him like a parent, he will really make you very unhappy!

So, now, don’t expect him to support you. First of all, he can’t support you. Of course, you can’t lose your job and have children at home. I believe that as long as you lose your job and lose your income, the days of suffering are still waiting for you! No matter what he says, at least financially, you have to leave your own way out. He is not the kind of man who can be responsible for you to the end. In such a marriage, you should make more plans for yourself, that's right!

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