The sample survey results show that the top four conditions that contemporary college students consider when choosing a spouse are honesty and reliability, affection, good education, and good health, but there are differences between men and women.

The survey results show that contemporary college students’ mate selection criteria tend to be rational. "Charming and rich will gain a leading advantage at the beginning of the marriage race, while intelligence and kindness are factors that will only come into play after the race begins." This survey also shows that people who are honest, reliable, affectionate, and Well-educated, healthy and responsible, they have a strong influence on both boys and girls. Of course, there are also significant differences in mate selection criteria between the sexes. Among them, boys value appearance and chastity more than girls; while girls value honesty, reliability, affection, good education, strong sense of responsibility and family finances more than boys. This is similar to the so-called "male talent and female beauty" in traditional society.

Education on marriage and love should be an integral part of sex education. Therefore, we should make full use of sexual health education. While popularizing sexual science knowledge, we should seize the opportunity to guide college students to establish correct sexual concepts and abandon vulgar views on marriage and love, so as to ensure the healthy growth of college students and enable them to contribute to social progress. , play their due role in the historical process of building a harmonious society.

Men are under great pressure and their mate preference has changed greatly

Researchers at the University of Trier in Germany say that stressed men may be more attracted to members of the opposite sex who look different from themselves. The research results were published in the British "Proceedings of the Biological Branch of the Royal Society" published on the 10th.

The British "Daily Telegraph" said that French President Nicolas Sarkozy and supermodel Carla Bruni, Hollywood actor Tom Cruise and his wife Katie Holmes, and fellow Hollywood stars Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones are both celebrity couples who look "different", and new experimental results may explain why they look so different.

Previous research has shown that men and women generally prefer members of the opposite sex who look similar to themselves and feel that such members of the opposite sex are more trustworthy. In addition, men prefer a partner who looks like their mother, while women prefer a partner who looks like their father.

Experiments in mice and flies have shown that stress can change mate preferences, but this has not been done in humans before.

While the results suggest that men may be pressured to choose women with different looks, the researchers are not sure whether this is true in real life.

As for why the stress experiment results are like this, the researchers say that stress may stimulate the male's desire for "external reproduction", that is, to reproduce with a female with different genetic characteristics.

So, what are the standards for choosing a spouse among stressed-out Chinese people?

Husband standards: dignified, down-to-earth and interesting

Because men in Beijing live in the imperial city, they are exposed to the rich cultural heritage. They are easy-going, don't care about anything, and can enjoy themselves in any environment. Whether it's abalone, sea cucumber or cucumber fried noodles, you can enjoy life, which is an important foundation in marriage. Only if you don't have a strong sense of utilitarianism can you live a down-to-earth life. If a man thinks about "luxury cars and mansions" all day long, is busy running around, and has no time to communicate with his wife, it will cause indifference and conflicts between husband and wife. Of course, if you live this kind of unremarkable life all day long, it will become boring after a long time. At this time, the advantages of Beijing men are reflected again.

"In the past, old Beijingers loved to raise flowers and play birds, listen to plays and go to the garden." Peng Guoqiu, deputy director of the Department of Psychosomatic Medicine at the First Affiliated Hospital of the People's Liberation Army General Hospital, said that this kind of life interest is also attractive to women. Women always hope that their lovers can spend more time with them, instead of looking at "wood" or "money-making machines" all day long. When two people have been together for a long time, it is inevitable that they will have conflicts. Beijing men's ability to speak well plays a huge role in making a woman happy with just a few words. This kind of coaxing is often just right, not "glib" but humorous. Women are more emotional. They get angry quickly and calm down quickly. It depends on the method you use. Expensive gifts are not as effective as a thoughtful word.

Wife standard: pretty, sweet-tongued and family-oriented

Sichuan girls can become men's "popular lovers", Dr. Peng Guoqiu said. Generally speaking, Sichuan girls have fair skin, good figure, and know how to dress up. This is of course an important aspect to attract men. Most men are "visual first", especially women who are mothers. Don't ignore this. If you think that just to take care of your children and family, you will let yourself go and be unkempt all day long, which will definitely make your husband aesthetically tired. After all, beautiful women are important in marriage. more confident.

The prerequisite for dressing yourself up is to "save money and be decent" like Sichuan girls. If you go to Sichuan, you will find that Sichuan girls are not all wearing famous brands and gold and silver. They can also wear simple clothes with charm. In addition, Sichuan girls are "sweet-tongued" and can speak to people's hearts, which is an important skill for marriage. Many women often complain that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, and they only complain when they do too much. Most of the reasons are because they cannot speak. Therefore, if a woman wants to have a harmonious family, she must first "learn" to speak.

To capture a man's heart, capture his stomach first, this is something Sichuan girls know best. Most of them can cook well, and they will never stay away from the kitchen for fear of smoke and fire. A woman's eating habits affect the health of her family. Learn some nutritional knowledge, have an appropriate mix of meat and vegetables, and be able to work in the hall and in the kitchen. This is an attractive woman.